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my ex BPD girlfriend and i have been NC since December 29. 

I blocked her number and erased the memory of her number from my phone. 

Then today, i received a voice mail on my phone from her.  The phone did not ring because her number is blocked.  She left me a voice mail saying how i only used her for sex and that i was never serious with her.  All this because she saw today that i opened an account on a dating site.  She must be on the same site... .

Well, i am not going to be fazed by this.  I am continuing on with my life and going to look for someone who can bring me joy and happiness and also someone with whom i can make happy.

I am continuing on with NC and with my life.

It truly is sick the mind games they play. Here's an example of one from mine which is similar. My ex left me for another guy for about a month straight. Lied to me about everything. Lied to friends and family. So after I caught her in her lies about a week later she wanted to get back together with me. Saying how sorry she was crying and everything. So I set firm boundaries and said ok if you can prove to me you love me I'll play along. Well one thing I said was I was going to look through her phone. She actually kept the guys number that she cheated on me with. I saw one text she sent to him and it said "you have ruined my life".

Just think about that. She met a guy drinking. Then continued to talk to him while in a relationship with me. Lied to everyone about her hanging out with him. Having sex with him behind my back. But she thinks that he ruined her life. Looking at it from an outside point of view I would say that he did nothing wrong. He probably didn't even know who I was. Even if he did, she probably lied and said we were over and I'm a crazy ex and everything. Projection at it's finest.

Good for you, French Connection!  Don't break NC.  Well done!