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Title: failed or failing Post by: rarsweet on January 12, 2015, 11:48:15 AM I don't think I failed, that term bothers me. I had enough that simple instead of giving something up I was heading toward something , and that was sanity,freedom,peace
Title: Re: failed or failing Post by: wavelife on January 12, 2015, 12:17:07 PM I have felt like I failed my BPDw and our marriage many times and often found myself dissecting my behavior... .what if I had done this? or didn't do this? The truth is I fought harder for our marriage than I have for anything in my life. It was a moving target that changed daily and shy of being as perfect as Jesus Christ I did not stand a chance. I was not perfect but I was not a bad man, and showed love consistently while getting nothing in return.
Now its not a matter of feeling like I failed... .It was inevitable. Now its just acceptance and a knowing that I will be a healthier happier me in a little time. These are not normal relationships where there can be acknowledgment of their actions or forgiveness for yours. A healthy relationship can get by hiccups in the relationship... .not in one of these. I always believed Love could conquer all and I believe it still can... .but with only one person in the relationship feeling love its just pain. You didn't fail... .like you said you are moving towards a better place. Title: Re: failed or failing Post by: rarsweet on January 12, 2015, 12:37:40 PM Amen
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