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Title: Probably leaving soon Post by: vickmeister on January 13, 2015, 11:03:29 PM I've posted here lots before. Mostly on the "Staying" board, I think.
Then a couple years ago I posted a success story. The knowledge gained here, the communication tools learned are invaluable. They make an impossible situation doable. But it might cost your soul a bigger price than you can pay. I can't continue the relationship w my particular pwBPD. Too many other factors pushed my decision to weigh the cost, foremost among them a daughter.in.law with stage 4 brain cancer. She is the mother of my grandson, age 4. Too much chaos in our home for a little guy who needs to have some time away from illness and the harsh reality that cancer brings. There can always be things that happen to derail our best intentions w our particular pwBPD, diagnosed or not, in our lives. And derail those same intentions in any relationship. Just saying, there can be a cost you may not anticipate paying, whatever path you choose. I know you all know that. Title: Re: Probably leaving soon Post by: Lucky Jim on January 14, 2015, 11:28:41 AM Agree, vickmeister. The price is high. I came close to destroying myself emotionally, physically and financially in my marriage to a pwBPD. Worst of all, I lost myself for a while there, which was for me a terrible feeling. Yet the ordeal made me stronger and a more authentic person, though my marriage ended in the process. That's OK. I tried as hard as I could for as long as I could. LuckyJim
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