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Title: Ever pay compliments? Post by: SvenUffda on January 17, 2015, 09:13:01 AM I'm wondering if its me who has the problem and just hyper-sensitive. But my gf can never say anything complementary to me or others. Me, I'm just the opposite and always tell her how nice she looks when I go see her. I think see really enjoys the praise and something I like to do and don't think I overdo it. Holding hands is very foreign to her too. We both are in our early 50's.
Just wondering if this too is a trait with someone who is BPD? I've walked away from this relationship 3-4 times and she is the one who always initiates getting back together, so she must think I'm a keeper. We've never said that we love each other, but I'm getting ready to very soon. Will be interesting to get her response. She's even admitted being a cold-hearted b@#$%. Thanks for any insight! Title: Re: Ever pay compliments? Post by: ShadowIntheNight on January 17, 2015, 11:05:39 AM If some woman told me she was a cold hearted $&@@! I would take her at her word. Otherwise she will show you that she is over time. And the last thing I would do is tell her I love her if you have been playing this kind of leaving coming back game. It will tear you apart if she really is BPD. You don't need to prove to her that she isn't the @)&& she says she is. She will prove to you she is. And even if she isn't BPD, a kind person doesn't tell you they're a cold hearted @$&$. They would have no reason to.
Title: Re: Ever pay compliments? Post by: SvenUffda on January 17, 2015, 12:39:25 PM Reading your response really hit a nerve, and that's a good thing. Does sound silly when you put it the way you did.
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