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Title: She's gone, I'm not looking back Post by: Panther123 on February 02, 2015, 02:25:52 PM Thought I'd provide an update. She's been out of the house since October. Life has pretty much returned to normal and I do not plan to ever talk to her again as long as I live.
It was painful as we bought the house together and she lived there with me and my kids. I have a somewhat high profile job and she made several threats through the break-up. She threatened to move back in with me, ruin me financially, run me over with her car, sue me for visitation with my kids, wear a sign and protest in front of my work saying I mistreated her, she's told people I am gay, that I am crazy, that I used her and she's even spoken to my ex-wife. She came to house while I was at work and had movers clean the house out of all belongings except my kid's stuff and my clothes. Haha, that was a big surprise. So how did I get rid of her... .MONEY. She was a money grubbing gold digger. So when I paid her for her half of the house I gave her too much money so she would stop with the emotional threats, etc. I hated doing it but my sanity and the safety of my kids comes first. I paid her about $20,000 too much and it was worth it. It's just money and I can make some more of it. Now life is wonderful and I have moved on. I had been trying to get her to move out since March 2014. It took me 7 months to get her out of the house. She didn't really pour on the crazy until the last month or so when she truly realized the push/pull would no longer work. I say a prayer many times a week thanking the universe for hitting me with a 2X4 so I'd wake up and kick her out. Good luck to all. It get's so much better when they are gone. BTW - what worked best for me was a letter. Yup you hear right, a letter. I pretended I was 5 years into the future and wrote myself a letter which said how good life was without her. Also explained that the break-up would be painful, suck, be full of drama and it was still worth going through. Haha, it worked for me. Best to all of you and good luck. Title: Re: She's gone, I'm not looking back Post by: cloudten on February 02, 2015, 03:25:42 PM Your post made me cry harder today... .but I am going to do the letter thing. I don't know how, but i'll do it. Today is my first day of NC... .for the second time.
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