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Title: How does a pwBPD feel to be dumped during the honeymoon/idealization phase? Post by: paperlung on February 02, 2015, 06:14:23 PM My ex quickly jumped into relationship with a guy she met off POF back in January. I don't think it officially lasted any longer than 10 days. I also don't know why he dumped her, but I found this out via Tinder. Her bio said she had just been dumped (no, I did not swipe right).
Pretty sure that's the shortest relationship she has ever had. I remember when we dated she told me about a guy she dated for 3 months and he broke up with her and that she was devastated, admitting that her next relationship was a rebound. I came after that alleged rebound. Title: Re: How does a pwBPD feel to be dumped during the honeymoon/idealization phase? Post by: Matt8888 on February 02, 2015, 06:22:56 PM They can't be alone, even for a few days or a week... Mine was trolling POF the same day we broke up. My brother saw her on there that same night and messaged her, " I thought you were with my brother".
She told me on our first date that nobody stays with her more than a few weeks. Those guys were much healthier than me. They saw the red flags and ran. She is a beautiful girl and they still ran. Unfortunately for me, I stayed for a miserable 5 months. And I knew what I was dealing with after a few days. I was married to a borderline before. Title: Re: How does a pwBPD feel to be dumped during the honeymoon/idealization phase? Post by: paperlung on February 02, 2015, 06:28:58 PM Yeah, I was thinking this guy just might of been smarter/wiser than I initially was. I was very inexperienced when I met my ex at 21. Like, a complete kissless virgin who had never been in a relationship before. I didn't know what I was doing, but I stuck it out because her sob story got to me. I wanted to recuse her, make her depression and other problems go away.
Title: Re: How does a pwBPD feel to be dumped during the honeymoon/idealization phase? Post by: Splitblack4good on February 02, 2015, 07:02:39 PM I would think it depends on how well they know the person and If they really like you I'm sure they feel rejection and add it to the sky high pile they have already . I was freinds with my ex BPD gf for 4 years before we got together and she made it clear that she liked me in that way from day 1 if I had if dumped her in idolisation phase I think suicide would of taken place not a threat ! I think if they just grab someone after being dumped without knowing them then it prob doesn't affect them much or another point of veiw is it depends if they got dumped my someone they really did love after a long relaitonship then got dumped by someone that early on would be like a double whamy !
My ex has just done this she reached out to me with in 6 weeks in idolisation phase having massive arguments and him belittleing her and being horrible to her it's like he knows he can do that as she adored him let him move in instantly as he was homeless and just taking the piss ! And she just took it as she can't be alone my replacement prob thought it was great until 6 weeks in and now she's giving all the hatred , anger etc back to him he pretty much dumps her every weekend and leaves to then return the same nite as he reminds himself he's got nowhere to go and prob regrets getting with her lol I can see them 2 canabalising each other ! Then her kicking him out to then never return Ther arguments are so bad the police were called by Ther neighbour on Xmas eve and causing disturbance of the peace oh well his prob now not mine lol |