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Hi all,

I've read through the topics and saw people discussed about being threatened by their xBPD so i wonder if anyone has the other way around like me.

It's been more than 3 months i found out his affair and kicked him out of the apartment; countless lies, blaming, blackening the replacement, r/s recycles... .later i realized those were just back-up plan because he had already moved in with my replacement since Day 1 and the affair was fairly new. It was devastating and a lot of angers from my side, not only for the cheating part but also, he stole my money during the time of having affair. I accepted the situation and the person he was, pulled back to my cave and licked my wound, until i found out he blackening me that i used him financially while it was supposed to be the opposite. How i could ever use his money while he only had 500 euro/month sent from his dad, living in Tokyo-one of the most expensive city in the world?

I always hate being and never let me involved in money matter with anyone. Even the money he stole from me, i considered it as for the gifts he bought and lesson he taught me but there he was, blackening me using his money. I told him: you have responsibility to tell everyone it was not right... .he neither admitted it nor denied so i knew it was true. After few email exchanging, i couldn't control my rage and turned to threaten him: if i ever heard about that anymore from anyone, i will not spend my precious time to explain to each and every person, instead i will file the necessary with Japanese police about you stealing my money (i had evidence of him admitting he stole my money by text) and at the time, not only your acquaintances but also the entire Japan will know who you are, a stealing coward. In Japan, stealing is very serious, even for 10 cent you will go to jail for 1 year. I think he was frightened about it but i don't know if he fixed it; actually i don't really care, just wanna teach him a lesson ~.~

He never did that before actually. He quit job in France to follow me to Japan, couldn't find a job (only graduated high school, didn't make effort to learn Japanese, didn't want "low-level" job as he said like waiter, loves photojournalism without any qualified certificates and 80% of expats claim they are photographer in Japan... .) and asked his dad to support instead of relying on me. He always wanted to have a lavish life, over-spending (even though still living relying on his dad) until we had serious finance problem, i asked him to sit down and work things out but he refused to and said his dad gonna send him 1000 euro due to some tax benefit (it turned out he cheated his dad that money, saying he gonna take Japanese lesson). I was not sure he was suitable being my life partner so i paused our wedding plan, then he cheated and became such coward theft who thinks he deserved all the money he stole/cheated and never managed to pay back