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Title: Shattered and broken. Nothing prepares you for divorce Post by: Moselle on February 14, 2015, 04:21:28 AM I've been on the staying board for 1 year. I have fought to save my BPD/NPD marriage. But it is over now. After 15 years and three childen, I realise that it was a delusion. The whole thing. A fantasy land.
And I'm just embarking on a seriously conflictual divorce. She is going through the statosphere Title: Re: Shattered and broken. Nothing prepares you for divorce Post by: enlighten me on February 14, 2015, 04:39:46 AM Hi Mosselle
Sorry that its come to this. The hard part of divorce is that you dont want to hurt them as you still have feelings for them. I bent over backwards and walked away with nothing. My ex guilt tripped me using the kids as a weapon and I buckled almost every time. It may sound harsh but you need to stand up for yourself and not back down. You need to engage the rational side of your brain and try to shut off the emotional side. You need to be in a position that your kids can see youve been fair without compromising your future. Its no good putting yourself in a position that you cant afford or accomodate your kids. No doubt she will paint a very bad picture of you to try and get as much as she can. Try not to take this to heart. She will be in full on survival mode and like a rat backed into a corner will fight with all she has got. All the best EM Title: Re: Shattered and broken. Nothing prepares you for divorce Post by: going places on February 14, 2015, 05:16:30 AM I'm so sorry.
At the 22 year mark, my ex's mask fell off. I spent 3 more years trying to make it work. Married 25 years, 3 adults children... . Ex is a monster. Abusive. I have been divorced for 8 months. It's hard; and I am sorry you have to go thru this. Title: Re: Shattered and broken. Nothing prepares you for divorce Post by: Mutt on February 14, 2015, 07:38:21 AM Hi moselle,
I'm sorry to hear that. Divorce is tough. Hang in there. ----Mutt |