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Title: blame texts Post by: kc sunshine on February 17, 2015, 01:46:08 PM After almost a week NC, I just got a text from my ex saying "I just want to let you know that I blame you for ruining my life." I haven't responded and don't feel compelled to but it is nagging at me though, like a bad seed she planted . I keep looking at it. I can't figure out whether to delete it or keep it as a reminder when I start to miss her... .any advice?
Title: Re: blame texts Post by: Rifka on February 17, 2015, 03:39:36 PM After almost a week NC, I just got a text from my ex saying "I just want to let you know that I blame you for ruining my life." I haven't responded and don't feel compelled to but it is nagging at me though, like a bad seed she planted . I keep looking at it. I can't figure out whether to delete it or keep it as a reminder when I start to miss her... .any advice? DELETE! Title: Re: blame texts Post by: JRT on February 17, 2015, 04:08:29 PM Yup... .the alternative is to convince her that you didn't... .I'd rather argue with a drunk
Title: Re: blame texts Post by: fromheeltoheal on February 17, 2015, 04:13:24 PM In the new millennium I think we call that cyberprojection; there's probably an app for it called iPurge.
If the goal is to get her out of your head and heart, carrying around tidbits of the demise of the relationship will not help. Best to slowly shift the focus from the past to the future, and do whatever you need to do to assist that. Title: Re: blame texts Post by: fred6 on February 17, 2015, 04:30:22 PM ^^^^DELETE
Next time send this. "This is an auto reply: Your messages have been blocked by this recipient." Title: Re: blame texts Post by: kc sunshine on February 17, 2015, 04:31:40 PM Deleted! I-purged! Thanks wonderful BPD family!
Title: Re: blame texts Post by: hope2727 on February 17, 2015, 05:47:02 PM ^^^^DELETE Next time send this. "This is an auto reply: Your messages have been blocked by this recipient." I really like this idea. Title: Re: blame texts Post by: Recooperating on February 17, 2015, 05:52:29 PM Deleted! I-purged! Thanks wonderful BPD family! Good for you! Remove the toxic from your live and keep on moving forward! |iiii Title: Re: blame texts Post by: jhkbuzz on February 17, 2015, 06:48:19 PM ^^^^DELETE Next time send this. "This is an auto reply: Your messages have been blocked by this recipient." That ^ is flippin' AWESOME! :) Title: Re: blame texts Post by: Loosestrife on February 18, 2015, 05:43:27 PM The auto reply is a great idea. I keep getting messages that fluctuate from "I'm suicidal" to " please don't contact me". Trying to ignore and keep deleting as they come through, but it is playing on my mind
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