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Title: Found strength to end it this week Post by: suerteluv on February 17, 2015, 08:58:49 PM New here and looking for strength after a five month roller coaster relationship with BPD boyfriend. He still wants contact even though hes moved forward dating his ex but still wants to be friends with me. I know I can't be anything to him for my own swell being. I need to know why my boundaries were so wobbly and why I let him control me. If anyone else has lost themselves like this... .I can't be the only one.
Title: Re: Found strength to end it this week Post by: Lucky Jim on February 18, 2015, 10:02:10 AM Hi sue, No, you're not alone. Be grateful that your BPD r/s was measured in months, not years. Many of us (read: me) were married to a pwBPD. You are asking the right questions, in my view. You are probably in a lot of pain, though perhaps you can look at your situation as an opportunity for growth. Hang in there, LuckyJim
Title: Re: Found strength to end it this week Post by: OnceConfused on February 18, 2015, 02:49:10 PM It is part of our human weaknesses, that is to cling onto the knowns, rather than pushing toward the unknowns even thought the knowns are not good.
You have to fight that clinginess. Once you succeed you will find a new you, a new better and improved person. |