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Title: Clinging behaviour Post by: DreamerGirl on February 27, 2015, 06:33:56 PM What's the best course of action when they start clinging to you?
Things have been fairly calm and good for a while now. I went away last week for three days, on a work trip, which was loads of fun. He seemed fine with me going away, and excited when I came home. But since I have been home, which has been a week now, he has been so clingy. Trying to sleep is a nightmare, he is touching me and holding onto me tight all night, waking me up to tell me he loves me. I am feeling sleep deprived and cranky and starting to feel engulfed by his neediness and am starting to push him away in the night, because I'm so tired and have to get up for work. I'm just wondering if anyone has an idea of how long this might last and if there is something I could be doing to make him feel secure again so I can go back to getting a good night sleep. Title: Re: Clinging behaviour Post by: Cat Familiar on February 28, 2015, 10:21:10 AM How frustrating to be on the receiving end of so much "love." It just is yet another example that pwBPD can be really clueless about how their behavior is received.
Have you told him directly that you need sleep and his "affectionate behavior" is keeping you awake? I don't know that you can make him feel secure, but you can let him know that his behavior is having a different effect than the one he hopes to have. |