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Title: I still feel likes it's gonna chance slap me Post by: Hostage1234 on March 06, 2015, 07:43:20 PM Why can they give so much in the beginning
Title: Re: I still feel likes it's gonna chance slap me Post by: Heldfast on March 07, 2015, 11:50:10 AM easy, they've set it up in their minds that you are their superhero, their everything, and they come into it with all the excitement, eagerness, and willingness to please as a child being taken to a Santa on Christmas eve, expecting every present they want will be given if only they are good enough.
Title: Re: I still feel likes it's gonna chance slap me Post by: Mutt on March 07, 2015, 12:03:38 PM The idealization phase creates a strong attachment for both the pwBPD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=161524.0) and non with excessive praise, mirroring, sex, and openness forms this bond; it creates a strong attachment and often both partners are unconsciously soothing complicated life long emotional wounds.
Title: Re: I still feel likes it's gonna chance slap me Post by: Hostage1234 on March 07, 2015, 05:33:36 PM I understand that but she has not said one nice thing to me in two years.not you look nice or thank you for a birthday card.
Title: Re: I still feel likes it's gonna chance slap me Post by: downwhim on March 07, 2015, 07:29:39 PM That is cruel. To not give one compliment or try and make your spouse feel good about themselves? It sounds like control to me. Maybe if she compliment you, you would feel good about yourself then someone else may look at you. Is she a jealous type?
Title: Re: I still feel likes it's gonna chance slap me Post by: Hostage1234 on March 08, 2015, 12:03:43 AM Yes very I bar tended for a seconed job but it had to be at a mostly gay bar because she did not trust woman
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