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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: jslim71 on March 07, 2015, 11:41:55 AM



Title: my girlfriend of six years
Post by: jslim71 on March 07, 2015, 11:41:55 AM
I will start with this my girlfriend of six years has lied to me for the

Last three years of our relationship. But here's the kicker during the last three years we was planning on moving from one side of the country to the other which was about two thousand miles. Now at the sometime she was thinking about breaking up with me and lieing

To me about moving because she really did what to move out of state so she decided not to tell me and so we moved across country

And five months later she tells me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore and she's been having a on line relationship with someone else And lieing about so I gave notice at my job and made travel arrangements and then a week later she comes to me and says I would like to work this out and I said to her do you realize the problem's you've caused I just lost my job because of the childish games your playing and she says oh don't worry about it you will find another one now two weeks has passed and now she's moving back to the state she moved from

And knowing full well I don't have a job yet and she's going to leave me hanging with no place to go so basically I will be homeless in a place where I don't know anyone and we was planning on getting married at this point I can't believe anything that comes out of here mouth because she has lied to me for so long and she has the nerve to say we can remain friends and I told her that I don't have or want friends like you in my life and all ive done was treated her like a princess I don't deserve this I know hate is a strong word but that's how I feel at this moment about this woman and one day she will get a good dose of her on medicine and it will be ten fold



Title: Re: my girlfriend of six years
Post by: tjay933 on March 07, 2015, 10:39:18 PM
 

Welcome. I'm sorry you are having such a tough time right now. was your gf diagnosed BPD or not? what led you to this site? there are lots of people here who have gone through rougher than rough times as you are right now. there's lots  to learn here. do you have any specific qs or just looking for someone to relate to?


Title: Re: my girlfriend of six years
Post by: vortex of confusion on March 08, 2015, 03:19:29 PM
That sounds like a rough place to be.

You have posted on the Staying Board. I know you are having some really strong negative emotions towards her right now. Are you hoping to reconcile with her at some point or do you want to be done with her? If you want to be done with, then the leaving board might be a better place to post. In the meantime, you can read through the Lessons to help you get a better idea of what has been going on. It is a confusing and messy place to be.

Hang in there!