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Title: I just heard that she contacted my sister not long after the b/u Post by: antonio1213 on March 07, 2015, 03:38:30 PM So today I learned that a month or two after we broke up my exBPDgf contacted my sister. Apparently she blamed me for a lot of stuff, talked about how happy she was in her new r/s (and details about it), how much happier she was in general, but at the same time asked how I was…
Why would she do all that than ask how I am? I should also add that I hadn't talked to her since she broke up with me. And also a couple of weeks after this she sent me a message saying 'hey'. All of this stings me and has me pretty confused. Why would she do that. Title: Re: I just heard that she contacted my sister not long after the b/u Post by: Recooperating on March 07, 2015, 05:54:03 PM Hey Antonio,
Im sorry your confused and hurt. These bu are terrible! Mine did the EXACT same thing your ex did! He contacted my sister telling her how terrible I am and how great he was doing f-ing 5 gorgeous girls half his age... .My sister didnt respond and a couple weeks later he texted me some bogus lines... .To me it seemed like he was testing the waters, looking for Supply. He didnt get the response he wanted so he ended up raging again. Maybe he felt guilt and shame towards my sister (she always treated him nicely although we was a complete *sshole most of the time). Maybe he wanted her to think it was all my fault cause he couldnt handle the shame or whatever... . We can only guess when it comes to the disordered mind. There is no making sense of it and I am done trying. I cannot control his actions, I can only control mine and I will not respond to anything anymore. Im trying hard to move on in a healthy way and working my butt off to improve me. How do you feel about the contact with your sister? Would you like to give it another go? Did it make you feel validated somehow? Turn the questions to your feelings instead of hers and find your answers and work through them... . I wish you the best antonio! Hang in there... .It will get better with time! Title: Re: I just heard that she contacted my sister not long after the b/u Post by: antonio1213 on March 07, 2015, 07:49:05 PM Hey Antonio, Im sorry your confused and hurt. These bu are terrible! Mine did the EXACT same thing your ex did! He contacted my sister telling her how terrible I am and how great he was doing f-ing 5 gorgeous girls half his age... .My sister didnt respond and a couple weeks later he texted me some bogus lines... .To me it seemed like he was testing the waters, looking for Supply. He didnt get the response he wanted so he ended up raging again. Maybe he felt guilt and shame towards my sister (she always treated him nicely although we was a complete *sshole most of the time). Maybe he wanted her to think it was all my fault cause he couldnt handle the shame or whatever... . We can only guess when it comes to the disordered mind. There is no making sense of it and I am done trying. I cannot control his actions, I can only control mine and I will not respond to anything anymore. Im trying hard to move on in a healthy way and working my butt off to improve me. How do you feel about the contact with your sister? Would you like to give it another go? Did it make you feel validated somehow? Turn the questions to your feelings instead of hers and find your answers and work through them... . I wish you the best antonio! Hang in there... .It will get better with time! Thank you! Feels so good to know this happened to someone else! I didn't know that she contacted my sister until today, and I am so shocked that she would sit there and tell my young sister how happy she is without me and how her relationship is with her new bf. And this is the girl who told me over and over how much she loved me every day…. You are right about finding the questions to my feelings instead of hers. Hearing all this hurts me and gives me so many unanswered questions. But I will focus on me. Good to know someone else went through this, thanks for the advice it makes me feel better. |