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Title: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: sun seeker on March 10, 2015, 10:24:08 PM
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Long story short.  I had date tonight. We met at the restaurant . She looked gorgeous , well put together.  Holy crap when she started to talk  red-flag  :light:. First she had a kid ( I thought cool) nope ! kid lived with grandparents. She said it just a better environment. Huh?   Conversation continued . Then she said her recent ex was her kids dads cousin. What the heck? Then she went on to talk about her friends so negatively and how crazy and efffed up they are.         . ( nope , nope and hell no) we just got the appetizers, the waiter and i made eye contact, I made the air sign for check . When the check came i laid CASH down (i was not about to wait to sign a receipt) nicely excused my self and said I dont feel a connection here and  I hoped she had a good night.

   

   At least she was honest. I appreciated that. But dam lol.

   


Title: Re: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: Suzn on March 10, 2015, 10:33:47 PM
 lol

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Title: Re: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: raisins3142 on March 10, 2015, 10:37:47 PM
She probably thought that made her sound mature, interesting, and put together because she could realize her parents are better at parenting than she is and also she was able to judge the faults in her friends.  Of course, that is not the take home message for the rest of us.  Mind if I ask how old this person is?


Title: Re: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: sun seeker on March 10, 2015, 10:42:20 PM
  Hey raisins.

No worries. Yea you perfect sense.   She is 42.

I asked about her previous r/s cause I remembered how my dexBPDgf talked negatively about her ex's. My new  dating prerequisites. (Hear how they talk about their ex's)

Even after the horrendous treatment by my exBPDgf I still do not talk negatively about her.


Title: Re: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: Sunfl0wer on March 10, 2015, 10:44:29 PM
Lol!

Awesome!  *)

Probably good to pay cash when you're out with a shady person.  They could get a crayon rubbing of your CC info?  Idk... jk... .but maybe not?


Title: Re: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: sun seeker on March 10, 2015, 10:50:26 PM
  Lol sunflower.  

 Yea never go out with a new person without cash in pocket. My thought was for a quik escape, thanks I know have two reason to bring cash. ( credit card theft)  :)


Just thought we could all use a good laugh with this thread.   We need it.


Title: Re: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: apollotech on March 10, 2015, 11:06:56 PM
Sun seeker, you may have been her "soul mate." Aren't you wondering about that?


Title: Re: Thanks dexpbdgf now when I see red flags I do not ignore them
Post by: sun seeker on March 10, 2015, 11:11:32 PM
  Apollo

That made me  lol so hard my side hurts!

When I was waiting for the check I couldnt wait to tell you guys. I thought to myself my friends in the BPDfam  will most deff will appreciat this one .   I will never forget tonight.