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Well I saw my ex yesterday after 3 weeks no contact. We were both booked to work as background actors on a tv show. We each found out Friday and she had a message passed to me that she was okay with me being there as long as I didn't talk to her. I agreed to this.

     We both arrived on set the same time which started the uneasiness. Be fore we went on set we had to wait in a big holding tent. She had a group of her friends most of which were people I knew. At first I sat way off to myself but later sat with some people i knew closer to her. I kept up with not talking to her that morning while we were filming but sometimes I did go over to talk to some of my friends who were near her. Later when they were positioning us from a scene one of the production assistants moved me from where i was over to a spot near here.

    She went crazy and started to accuse me of stalking her on set. She then complained to a wardrobe person nearby that I was stalking and threatening her daughter. She did this in front of everyone. I saw a real look of hate in hers eyes that scared me.

     That evening I wrote an email to the casting agency complaining about her actions and telling my side of the story. I also contacted a lawyer friend who has been advising me with the details of what happened. This afternoon I got a response from the casting agency thanking me for filling in the details of what happened and telling me that neither she or me would be cast on that show again but we could still be cast on other projects.

     So I was fired from a tv show for what she did. That's okay I only did it for fun part time. for her it's a bigger problem because she was a full time extra on the show. I remember when she got the job on the show I was so excited for her. we even did the first episode together and had a great time. After one day of filming she told me she loved me and kissed me. I wasn't ready to leave my wife for her but it meant a lot to me. since then she has done nothing but hurt me on purpose and for no reason.

    It's sad that it had to turn out this was for us and our job on the show but I can move on.

    I'm just hoping she doesn't try to get revenge because you know she blames me.

Hi stntylr,

*welcome*

I'm sorry to hear that. A pwBPD are emotionally arrested and often exaggerate emotions like a young child without thought to consequences. She said she loved you after the first set of filming. A person suffering from BPD have dichotomous thinking, or think in black and white. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=62033.0)

If your giving something that she wants your are treated as all good. Unbeknownst to you, she has a core wound of abandonment, something that arrests ger emotional development of around the age 2 or 3 and she re-enacts that trauma subconsciously and are treated as all bad.

She can't see the grey areas in the world or with people it's either black or white and on set she sees you as all bad "She went crazy and started to accuse me of stalking her on set. She then complained to a wardrobe person nearby that I was stalking and threatening her daughter."

The good news is that you reported the issue with the agency and they're not going to cast you together so future problems should be resolved?

I'm not understanding the L? Are you looking to recoup losses?

I contacted a lawyer in case she did call the police on me.

I just got a text from my other friend. My ex has convinced her I'm the crazy one and everything I told her about my ex was a lie.

Now she has threatened to call the police.

This just keeps getting worse and worse.

Are you talking to your ex?

No, just the very short argument we had Monday.

I'm really over her now. I can on;y take so much hurt. I just know she wants to get back at me for her getting fired. I don't know what she will do. My lawyer friend advised me to get a defense lawyer because of all the treats to call the police on me.

She threatened to tell the police what?

That I was harassing her or stalking her. I'm not sure what all I've done.

Did you run this letter by your attorney friend before sending it? You have to be careful with putting things in writing when it can cost someone their job. Whether or not she was at fault. If she has witnesses to stand for her she could sue for slander and liable, especially since she was on staff as a regular. But from everything I've read this can take years and it's very expensive. It would be wise to be prepared for this possibility.

Was watching a show I had recorded on my DVR and saw my former friend who had sided with my ex for a moment in a scene. It brought back memories I'm really trying to forget.