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Title: am I overthinking? Post by: ghoststory on March 21, 2015, 11:33:51 PM last year my attachment with my expwBPD began at a St Patrick fest thrown every year that I usually perform at ,,and we work together and last week I secured a transfer and within the day I was gone without saying a word ... .and have barley spoke to her in 4 months ,,but tonight I got text at the fest that she is there at the fest , lucky for me I backed out this year ,,but she would have had to know there was a strong chance I'd be there ,,I can't help to wonder if she thought we might have run into each other granted she might have given me the cold shoulder response ,,does the abandonment fears happen if the friendship was already eroded? I suspect she is a fake page on my Facebook ,,am I overthinking ? is this part of the healing?
Title: Re: am I overthinking? Post by: Loosestrife on March 22, 2015, 03:16:34 AM last year my attachment with my expwBPD began at a St Patrick fest thrown every year that I usually perform at ,,and we work together and last week I secured a transfer and within the day I was gone without saying a word ... .and have barley spoke to her in 4 months ,,but tonight I got text at the fest that she is there at the fest , lucky for me I backed out this year ,,but she would have had to know there was a strong chance I'd be there ,,I can't help to wonder if she thought we might have run into each other granted she might have given me the cold shoulder response ,,does the abandonment fears happen if the friendship was already eroded? I suspect she is a fake page on my Facebook ,,am I overthinking ? is this part of the healing? Yes you are overthinking, but we are all doing it which is why we are on here :) If the relationship was right and she cared she wouldn't be waiting for the fest, she would have sat down just the two of you ages ago and tried to work things out. You did the best thing for you which was not to go. That shows strength, so we'll done and keep moving forwards |iiii Title: Re: am I overthinking? Post by: ghoststory on March 22, 2015, 03:53:50 AM well we did talk a couple months ago and it was resolved as far as she was concerned but I just detached thinking that was as close to closure as I would get and went LC,,and now to NC so luckily for me she is not the approach type she is the give me attention and I'll give you piece of mind type ... .my not talking to her was obviously starting to bother her so I thought maybe with no option for me to approach no more phone or facebook connections a chance meeting might have at least crossed her mind ,,I do however see the point of if she cared and yes avoiding her has been hard but thanks for the compliment of strength ,,I do feel stronger everytime I move farther away ... .thank you
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