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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: MrConfusedWithItAll on March 29, 2015, 09:38:52 AM



Title: Broke NC and feeling a bit daft.
Post by: MrConfusedWithItAll on March 29, 2015, 09:38:52 AM
With stress at work, and stress of buying a house and it being my birthday - and having had too much to drink I broke NC.  She sent a happy birthday email.  I responded with a thanks.  A few emails exchanging news followed.  A few days ago she asked, via email, if we could meet up.  Her kids, herself and my kids and myself.  I responded saying I would not be meeting up with her and there were no hard feelings and wishing her well.  I guess this triggered her because she responded quite angrily that I was still angry and how sad it all was that I was still angry.  Funny thing is I don't feel angry at all.  I feel guilty that I broke eight months of NC only to trigger her.  I have no doubt she is still with my replacement and things are falling apart. Back to NC again I guess.


Title: Re: Broke NC and feeling a bit daft.
Post by: mitatsu on March 29, 2015, 09:49:31 AM
Hey great lesson in self strength   shows you what you were dealing with and that your gaining your boundery's back


Title: Re: Broke NC and feeling a bit daft.
Post by: sun seeker on March 29, 2015, 10:05:03 AM
 Hey Mr C

I know I have been there. Stressed & special days and all. I wished I handled myself as you did a year ago. Ive been n/c and I wil not falter again!  Awesome strength  :) glad to read this today.


Title: Re: Broke NC and feeling a bit daft.
Post by: downwhim on March 29, 2015, 11:15:32 AM
Be proud of yourself. You could have met up with her and didn't. Great job... .back to N/C.


Title: Re: Broke NC and feeling a bit daft.
Post by: MrConfusedWithItAll on March 30, 2015, 12:43:21 PM
Thanks everyone for the supportive comments.  Yes it is true I can claim some credit for not meeting up.  I have never had this before.  I have been discarded before but not like this.  Discarded for another yet she still persists in trying to triangulate.  Plain crazy.