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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD => Topic started by: sisterofbpd on April 10, 2015, 02:39:43 PM



Title: It's National Siblings Day... Sigh
Post by: sisterofbpd on April 10, 2015, 02:39:43 PM
So am I the only one that has a pang of jealousy while on FB or other social media which today is showcasing everyone's perfect sibling relationships?  I've always envied people with a great relationship with their brother or sister and today just makes it hard.  I am happy for all of them though, just jealous. I know I could just stay off FB for the day, but I always feel this way when ever I see someone's awesome family pictures of great times with extended families and wonder why mine has to be so messed up. 


Title: Re: It's National Siblings Day... Sigh
Post by: Meadowslark on April 10, 2015, 02:50:27 PM
Same boat here, SisterofBPD. I'm staying off of FB, just in case. Don't want to trigger that jealousy.


Title: Re: It's National Siblings Day... Sigh
Post by: hope2727 on April 10, 2015, 08:13:22 PM
I actually called my god mother and cried about it earlier. I am one of 5. We are all disordered in our own ways (me included). I can't stand to be around them. I minimize my contact. It is so sad. So painful to be alone. But that is the way it is and will always be for me.

One of my oldest friends lives near one of my siblings. Her mother goes to church with this sibling and his wife and kids. My friend for YEARS has kept her mouth shut about that person being my sibling. Her  mom finally made the connect a few months ago. There result was horror. Her mom felt so bad for me. I was embarrassed. I can not be a real part of their lives. It is so sad.

So I am spending my evening raking leaves (and crying) as I have been super discouraged lately. So yes sibling day sucks for some of us. You are not alone.


Title: Re: It's National Siblings Day... Sigh
Post by: sisterofbpd on April 11, 2015, 10:28:49 PM
Yeah, it's certainly depressing.  


Title: Re: It's National Siblings Day... Sigh
Post by: maemo on April 12, 2015, 11:28:56 AM
I felt the same way! You're not alone. :) It's just that the people who don't have great sibling relationships don't post anything, so the FB feeds are overwhelmingly positive and triggering to those of us who have less-than-stellar (that's putting it lightly!) sibling relationships. :)



Title: Re: It's National Siblings Day... Sigh
Post by: hope2727 on April 12, 2015, 07:45:20 PM
Fathers day used to really bother me but I notice that now i don't even find myself aware that it is going by. Sibling day is still raw for me. Hopefully I can find some peace and new friendships to help enrich my life.