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www.heartspiritmind.com/relationships/relationships-with-emotionally-immature-people/


Interesting article on adult immaturity notice the parelells with BPD we all know at heart BPD is an emotional immaturity disorder but what's the difference between say AED and a high functioning BPDer ?

Reading that article, one can easily feel that it speaks directly to persons with BPD.

One of the hallmarks of BPD is emotional immaturity.

That is not to say that all persons who are emotionally immature have BPD. 

What is AED?  I don't see that referenced to in this article.

Hi Sunflower 

I don't think it is on there sunflower but on other articles on google it is called AED or " adult immaturity disorder "

Hey Dobie! 

<sub>I googled... .

Only came up with... .

AED: automated external defibrillator

And

AED: anti-epileptic drugs</sub>

You got a link?

I think it was AID I can't find it now ... . 

I'm sure I didn't imagine it  though lol

AIDS Dobie!  Lol!  Just kidding!

I think we can spend too much time in our heads maybe, cause now they've also got AIDS somehow!   .

Just messing with ya!

IDK!

Off to practice some wise mind! Later!

I have been married twice. First h was non-disordered and then there was my uBPDh. They were both very emotionally immature but they were opposites like night and day.  The biggest difference? Manipulation and game playing.

My first h didn't play any games and never tried to manipulate me. He never threatened me although there was abuse. Mostly verbal. It would p*ss me off bc I felt like he was indulging in letting out all his anger to make himself feel better. So childish yet I never considered it abuse. I certainly didn't fear him. I aways felt with work (therapy) he could change his immature patterns (even though he has chosen not to). 

My uBPDexh was so manipulative and such a game player. So many tactics were used (intentionally or not) to keep control of me. Dishonesty, ST, subtle put-downs, rages, secrecy and invading my privacy.  All the while acting like he was prince charming and my saviour.

In the end I still have a reasonably amicable r/s with my first exh bc we share a child. I have zero contact with my second h and there would be no way it could be possible. Zero trust. So thankful there are no children between us.

How emotionally immature was I to get into these two r/s and marry these men (and others that were also emotionally immature but didn't result in marriage)?  Why have I chronically chosen these immature men? Since my BU with my uBPDexh I have worked so hard at recovery and healing and have matured a lot. I have learned to cope with my emotions and not run away from them (it's a work in progress). I can look back and see that my choosing these men had a lot to do with my own self-worth. Maybe they are all I thought I deserved. Or could get. Maybe I chose them bc it made me feel like I had my ___ together more than I did. These are the questions I ponder these days.