Title: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Infern0 on April 15, 2015, 12:34:39 AM This site was a great support for me during the worst times of my BPD experience, however with me closing the door on that chapter of my life I feel like this site is now too much of a crutch for me.
I wasted a year of my life on "BPD" and I don't want any more of my life to be about "BPD". Frankly I've had my fill of "BPD" I wish everyone else a speedy recovery. My last piece of advice would be to give up any hope you may have left. You have to come to understand that there is no hope for a normal relationship with them. However there is hope for you if you stay away from them. Good luck, and peace. Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: fromheeltoheal on April 15, 2015, 12:40:27 AM OK InfernO, good luck to you and it's been good seeing you on the boards. On your way out you may want to reframe the 'waste' of a year and focus on how much you grew through it all; what if everything happens for a reason and it serves us?
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Chasing_Ghosts on April 15, 2015, 12:50:48 AM Been a while since ive been here but i saw your post and thought to wish you the best. Youve obviously grown in wisdom in realizing the depth and limit that these type of relationships can provide. To piggy back off of heel, i think id be beneficial to see this as a learning experience that will help you to better be able to detect more healthy potential partners and hopefully never have to deal with this level of dysfunction again.
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: ogopogodude on April 15, 2015, 12:52:48 AM This site was a great support for me during the worst times of my BPD experience, however with me closing the door on that chapter of my life I feel like this site is now too much of a crutch for me. I wasted a year of my life on "BPD" and I don't want any more of my life to be about "BPD". Frankly I've had my fill of "BPD" I wish everyone else a speedy recovery. My last piece of advice would be to give up any hope you may have left. You have to come to understand that there is no hope for a normal relationship with them. However there is hope for you if you stay away from them. Good luck, and peace. (holy crap, ... . I think that this must be one of theeeee best posts I have read in a long time, ... . seriously... . ) Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: cosmonaut on April 15, 2015, 12:54:08 AM Take care, Infern0. I'm glad you feel ready to continue to move on from this whole crazy experience. I understand about needing to put BPD in your past, and that's very healthy. There are much brighter horizons awaiting you. Thanks for all of your contributions you've made and support you've given to everyone here. You'll be missed. I wish you all the best, man. God bless.
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: downwhim on April 15, 2015, 12:56:56 AM Thank you for all your great posts. I have learned from you and am grateful. Good luck. I cannot wait until I am in your spot. Good luck and think of it as healing time instead of wasted time.
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Tibbles on April 15, 2015, 01:05:27 AM Thanks Inferno for all you posted. I learnt a lot from you. I wish you all the very best x x x
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: mitatsu on April 15, 2015, 01:25:37 AM Take care and we are here at any point if ya wanna drop in an say
stay strong Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Beach_Babe on April 15, 2015, 02:13:57 AM Its been a pleasure =)
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Infared on April 15, 2015, 04:46:05 AM God bless and best of luck moving forward.
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: enlighten me on April 15, 2015, 06:12:59 AM Hi inferno
Dont take this the wrong way but im glad you are leaving. I dont mean this in a horrible way but in the way that you have reached a point where you no longer need the support that this site offers. There comes a point where people need to leave this site to fully heal and move on. I personally have been at a point where I could have left but have decided to stay as I may have things to offer and I also like to keep up with current research. I wish you all the best and a happy BPD free future. Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Plonko on April 15, 2015, 06:21:37 AM That's a great post. Good luck mate.
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: sadanddestroyed on April 15, 2015, 07:16:58 AM Best luck to you Infern0 your posts always helped me a lot
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Loosestrife on April 15, 2015, 04:26:37 PM Thank you for your support and all the best
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Maternus on April 15, 2015, 04:51:42 PM Good bye and good luck!
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Heldfast on April 15, 2015, 04:54:25 PM VAIA CON DIOS! Glad you are doing better!
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: ReclaimingMyLife on April 15, 2015, 05:31:13 PM Inferno, darnn, bummed to see you go but celebrate you moving forward! I've only been here abt 1.5 weeks but have appreciated your contribution to my life.
That said, I can also totally appreciate the feeling that BPD has occupied enough of your life. After reading your post this morning, I was thinking abt a crutch. And how when we break a leg we need crutches. We need extra support and external strength while we heal. Good to have crutches available and to use them while we need them. But we are supposed to heal, move on, and set those crutches down. Using them forever when they are no longer needed would be silly (or fear-based or something!). Imagine if I were still using the crutches from when I broke my foot in 6th grade! So CONGRATS on setting aside those crutches - good to have had them and good to no longer need them. Carry on! You'll be missed! Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Tim300 on April 15, 2015, 05:54:33 PM Farewell Infern0, and thanks for your incisive parting words. You nailed it. May life bring you great joy and peace.
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: eyvindr on April 15, 2015, 06:20:30 PM Later, brother.
Stay strong. ev. Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Vatz on April 15, 2015, 07:39:30 PM Moving on and closing the book. Opening new and potentially better one. A new adventure. This is good. Something to aspire to, I think.
May you find joy in the success of your endeavors. May your ordeals leave you stronger and no worse for wear. Farewell. Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: myself on April 15, 2015, 08:32:22 PM Good luck, Inferno. You sound like a good guy, a good friend, and someone who gave it a real shot. Here's hoping someone really takes a chance with you and it works out well for all involved. Peace.
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: Fluff on April 16, 2015, 03:00:04 AM Take care Infern0 and thank you for your posts!
Title: Re: Time for me to leave BPDfamily Post by: parisian on April 16, 2015, 03:14:14 AM Inferno I have been following you for as long as I have been on here also.
I wish you all the best, and hope that you can continue to move forward. Sometimes if there are triggers or things that still pop up, don't feel bad about coming back in. I have had to return after saying my goodbyes a few months ago too :). This is an amazing and supportive community x |