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Just my luck... . I got out of a relationship about 4 months ago with a woman who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder. I met and started to date a woman about a month ago whom I thought was emotionally stable and amazing. And just my luck, she is beginning to display all the signs of a Narcissist and Emotional Manipulator. But at least I can be thankful I paid close attention to the red flags early on then later down the line. This is so painfully funny and scary in the same sense.

Good for you on spotting red flags and recognizing what they are. How are you responding to it?

Yes, and also an opportunity to recognize patterns; what do they have in common?  Do they have any similarities to other exes?  Did the same things attract you to both of them initially?

Thanks. She has gone silent on me since last night, so I am going no contact with her. I refuse to ride the emotional wave with an emotionally unstable person.

She has similarities to my last ex only, which is how I was able to pick up on some things. All my past relationships were healthy and ended on mutual terms. With this one it was classic... . the over-evaluation (placed on a pedestal, mirroring everything about me, overly infatuated, victim of all previous bad relationships, making life long plans in the first week of meeting, wanted a committed relationship after 2 weeks, felt I was the one, different from all the others, etc.)... . The devaluation (beginning to lie, some nights won't respond to texts or return calls, constant arguing, emotional roller coaster, she's right and I'm ALWAYS wrong, moody and agitated very easy (because I didn't smile as much as she think I should have or I am only permitted to ask certain questions on specific days), I could go on and on but I think we are currently in the discard phase.

Mind you I have only known this woman for a total of 23 days.

My ex pursued me and I stepped out my comfort zone and introduced myself to the current alleged narcissist.

Wow, quite a whirlwind for 23 days; congrats on seeing the signs, which sound blatant, and more importantly keeping your feet on the ground and not getting caught up in it.  So you ended the relationship?

SURVEY SAYS:   DUMP!

rj --

You know the drill now. Keep on moving. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.

May the wind be at your back.

ev.

I haven't spoken to her, but once I do, I will let her know this isn't working out for me and I'm gonna keep it moving. If I don't ever hear from her... . she has already done me the favor.

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