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Hello I am new to this site and so glad to be here.  I am 45yrs old and my husband has BPD with a bit of Bipolar and narcissistic behavior.  We own a trucking company together and it is really taking its toll on me.  I hope to find some answers and find friends with similar problems.  Thank you all for having me  :)

Thank you for posting. Welcome to the boards. 

Was he diagnosed with BPD? Is he seeing a therapist?

Are you seeing a therapist?

Hi Mike, he was not officially diagnosed with BPD but over the 11 years we've been together his unexplainable actions only leads me to feel positive this is what he has.  It has just repeated itself over and over on a daily basis and left me to think " this is just not normal".  When I found out about BPD it was so relieving knowing there was an explanation for all of these bizarre behaviors and I was not crazy.  He has went to a few therapist for one time visits.  Never goes back.  And I am seriously thinking of going to one myself because it is taking it's toll on me emotionally and physically.  It is so hard focusing on this issue 24/7.  I swear I have PTSD or something because of all of the over inflated emotional episodes I deal with in my daily life.  Thanks for your welcome.  I am glad to be here :-) :)

Hi Emotionless,

Interesting screen name.     

I hope you have found the Lessons on the right hand side of the screen and explored them.  I found them to be very helpful.

What you said about living with the inflated emotional episodes taking a toll made a great deal of sense to me.  When my partner and I went through a very bad year I too felt sort of PTSD-ish and I went to therapy.  Therapy ended up being a great experience for me.  I got a lot out of it.  So I hope you follow through and make an appointment.

Would you like to tell us more about what brought you to this website?   Of course you can just dive into the conversations, and lessons if that feels more comfortable.  We have all been where you are now.  We do understand.

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I felt relieved too when I discovered BPD, because so much that had gone on in my relationship with my uGF made sense. I was also questioning myself through the relationship, even after discovering that BPD fit her behavior and past, and even after she moved out. I think that through living with someone with BPD you start to experience in a someways what their inner turmoil might be like.

I recommend focusing on you, your emotional, mental, and physical health. I found that I contributed less to the escalation of conflict and was more empathetic as I became more centered, by focusing on my mental and physical health and emotional regulation.

The lessons on the right are a great place to start. I have found that the communication tools and depersonalization have been useful so many exchanges that I engage in throughout the days. Validation is a valuable communication tool for interacting with so many people.