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Title: why does it matter? Post by: shatterd on April 28, 2015, 12:18:49 PM desisions, should i care what my ex thinks or feels anymore? I have to make choices, jobs placecs to live freinds and so on, shood i consider her feelings? were done this time, so, not understanding her thoughts now. No contact except for the kids, seams to have gliches yes? Even tho its over now im stumped on this i dont want to hurt her, my situation, i feel its survival now, any thoughts?
Title: Re: why does it matter? Post by: enlighten me on April 28, 2015, 12:33:12 PM You should do what is best for you and your kids. I also have considered what my exs would think of decisions I make. Would they approve, would it make them jealous etc.
Now I couldnt care less. Its my life to live as I please with only myself to answer to. Yes i still will get a buzz from the thought of them being jealous of something i do but i wont chose to do it because of them. Title: Re: why does it matter? Post by: shatterd on April 28, 2015, 12:41:40 PM when they think diffrntly than us do they sit and plot this out or is it just natural? like they dont no better
Title: Re: why does it matter? Post by: enlighten me on April 28, 2015, 12:53:40 PM They dont often plan they react. They react to their feelings. This is why you have them blowing hot and cold and seem to constantly change their stance on things.
You can manipulate their behaviour by how you behave. By not reacting and by always staying calm you can eventually get to a calm interaction. Title: Re: why does it matter? Post by: shatterd on April 28, 2015, 12:57:04 PM ya she reacts for sure always does, but i gota do what i gota do now, very controlling on her part
Title: Re: why does it matter? Post by: enlighten me on April 28, 2015, 01:01:25 PM When they loose that control on you they may lash out but stay strong and stick to your path. It gets easier.
Title: Re: why does it matter? Post by: shatterd on April 28, 2015, 01:15:17 PM ya shes makein it hard
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