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Title: interesting take on BPD Post by: Infern0 on May 04, 2015, 03:39:54 AM This guy dated one.
I found this quite accurate than https://m.youtube.com/watch?list=PLvZrXMnZIORgpj11oblMRXO7seqWm99v8&v=1Ix-W-OfKdo Title: Re: interesting take on BPD Post by: FannyB on May 04, 2015, 03:57:58 AM I can relate to a lot of what he's saying. I had an instant, over-powering, attraction to my ex from the first time I saw her. Rare thing for me. I also wrote her a Valentine's poem entitled: 'There's Something About ******'.
You really couldn't make this up - uncanny! Title: Re: interesting take on BPD Post by: jhkbuzz on May 04, 2015, 04:55:07 AM My attraction to my ex wasn't instant. What intrigued me was that she was so immediately into me. Heady stuff.
As I got to know her some red-flag popped up. But because I was enjoying her attention, and because I was unhappy with the state of my own life, I ignored them. Title: Re: interesting take on BPD Post by: Reforming on May 04, 2015, 05:39:59 AM This guy dated one. I found this quite accurate than https://m.youtube.com/watch?list=PLvZrXMnZIORgpj11oblMRXO7seqWm99v8&v=1Ix-W-OfKdo Hi Inern0 Slightly confused by his logic about There's Something About Mary I've seen it a few times and I enjoyed it but from what I remember the Ben Stiller character falls in love with Mary in high school. After a very brief relationship (if you can call it that) and no subsequent contact he obsesses about Mary for the next 20 years, unable to move on despite years of therapy. He hires a PI (Dillon) to find her (stalking). The PI (a shady character) starts to behave obsessively before he even meets Mary and stalks her too lying to Stiller. He spies on her, bugging her apartment until he has enough information to try and pretend to be the kind of man she finds attractive. We then discover that Woogy, Stiller's friend also stalked Mary to the point where she had to get a protection order and move to another state (scary stuff). She is also being stalked by another man pretending to be an architect who secretly sabotaged her relationship with a baseball star. (scary stuff too) Mary has a good job, a group of close friends and works hard to look after her brother. She isn't unstable, she doesn't rage, show any signs of instability or exhibit any noticeable borderlines traits. She is beautiful and friendly. She does seem to attract unhealthy obsessive people. It's our job to work out who is healthy and who is not and protect ourselves with good boundaries and Mary's radar may not be functioning at an optimum, but is she responsible for all these guys dysfunctional behaviour? Who needs more help here? I think we're attracted to people who make us feel good about ourselves, that doesn't make them borderline. Reforming Title: Re: interesting take on BPD Post by: dobie on May 04, 2015, 07:07:05 AM My attraction to my ex wasn't instant. What intrigued me was that she was so immediately into me. Heady stuff. As I got to know her some red-flag popped up. But because I was enjoying her attention, and because I was unhappy with the state of my own life, I ignored them. This was the same for me A few months in I try and BU with her she comes back in 20 minutes knocks on the door and tells me "I feel like we are meant to be" I wish I had stuck to my descicion |