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Can anyone share stories of their BPD partner developing sudden and impulsive obsessions with certain things?  Here's mine:

My ex became obsessed with our local Major League Baseball team last fall when they made the playoffs.  On the surface, she's the very definition of a "fair weather" or "bandwagon" fan, but it has become such a part of her life now that the new season has started.  We broke up in February and of course I was replaced two weeks later, but she broke NC and we had a catching-up discussion two weeks ago.  She went out and bought a hat, shirt, and has attended several games already this season... .with my replacement, of course.  She never attended a game with me, and even stated she hated sports.  He's a big fan, too, which probably explains it a bit (mirroring) but hey, I was a big fan for years, too.  She became a fan the instant they made the playoffs and now acts like she has been a fan for years... .calling the players by their first names, etc.

Three years ago, she became obsessed with the Green Bay Packers... .because she saw Aaron Rodgers in one of those "discount double check" commercials and thought he was attractive.  For the rest of that season she watched every game and even did the "Go Pack Go!" chant, and knew most of the player's names.

She would also become very focused on music - a band/singer would release an album, and she would listen to it exclusively for about two weeks (nothing else), and then move on to the next one.  It was so weird - we would ride in her car, and for the entire ride she would have that ONE album on repeat.  She would tell me she was listening to one SONG on repeat as she worked on homework for college.  Then, two weeks later, she wouldn't want to listen to it anymore.  She would also "binge watch" an entire SERIES (multiple seasons in just a few days) of a television show.  I know this is more common now with Netflix, but she did it with DVD's, too.  It was like she had to complete the entire series before she could do anything else.

It's like it starts as this minor thing... .then snowballs and takes over her life.  Then just as quickly... .poof, she doesn't care anymore.

Anyone else have other unique stories?  I will admit that part of the reason for this topic is my irritation that my ex is now the "biggest" fan of our MLB team now that we are broken up, instead of, you know, liking them with me for the 5 years we were together.  Oh well.  I'm waiting for the day sometime this summer where she doesn't care anymore.

Last summer, just a few weeks after we started seeing each other, the World Cup started. I am very much into soccer, she doesn't know anything about it. I don't wanna say that she got obsessed with it, but all the sudden she wanted to know everything about soccer and who played who and when and all that stuff. I thought she was just genuinely interested in what I was interested in and wanted to learn more about it. If only I knew the real reason back then... .

The movie The Sound of Music. When I met this woman she had never seen it. The first year we were together it was on at Christmas. She was at her mother's, I was at my home. She asked what I was doing, told her watching TSOM and she proceeded to call it a stupid film, how she had never seen it, and I was wasting my time.

The next year it was on again. She was at her mom's calls me, asks what I'm doing, telling her I'm watching the movie and she starts in again. I talk to her the next morning, and lo and behold her mother had it on, it was at the scene where the Nazi's tell Von Trapp he has to report for duty, and she falls in love with the movie. It's like the greatest thing she ever saw. Why didn't I tell her what it was about, she asks, I tell her everyone knows what the movie is about (she was about 40 at that time, so she should have known). She had no idea,it involved nazis, etc. after that she bought the movie on DVD and watched it at least once a month.

Around the 4th or 5 th yr we were together, a local theatre troupe put the play on. I got us tickets to go see it for her birthday so she could see it in it's play format. She was beside herself with joy.

Last I heard it was her favorite movie. I seriously considered sending her the 50th anniversary DVD that came out earlier this year. But then I decided against it. She can let her new beau get it for her.

Invictus, what did she do AFTER the World Cup ended?  :)id she follow any of the existing teams in Europe, or Major League Soccer?  

I think my ex is partly mirroring my replacement when it comes to baseball.  They are co-workers.  Well, she is the marketing manager and he's the security guard, but still... .same building.  Of course, I'm a fan, too, but it wasn't necessary for her to latch onto me like I think it was with Replacement. 

Last fall, when they were in the playoffs, she told me they talked baseball a lot as he basically just hung out and talked to employees all day.  Now she's a super fan, going to games with him.  Her Facebook profile photo is her in the hat, and her cover photo is the stadium.  She couldn't even name ONE player before last October.  One of them came into her job (a museum) and she posted on Facebook about it, and was irritated that everyone was fawning over a baseball player.  Now he's one of her favorites, of course.

SITN, my ex HATED "South Park" when we started dating.  Said it was juvenile and silly.  Low and behold, she now watches it multiple nights a week on Comedy Central, and every new episode.  She saw "The Book of Mormon" play (written by the same guys) and loved it.  She had also never seen an episode of "Curb Your Enthusiasm" but of course binge watched it, and now says Larry David (guy in the show) is the male version of her.

4years, there were many shows my ex ended up loving after I mentioned them to her. She would always call something a phrase I won't use here if she thought it was stupid, and invariably she would have to back track after she watched a few episodes. I put it down to her not being very open about learning new experiences. And what I mean by that was she wasn't as broad minded about the world and things in it until after we met. I suspect it had to do with the world she grew up in. But once I pointed something out to her, she was swooned by it!