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Title: BPD Post by: jmay2314 on May 11, 2015, 12:14:55 PM My current wife and I are separated. She just receive her BS in mental health therapy and states I have BPD. I agree I have traits and I want help: however she has traits to from what I read. I do I know for certain I have BPD?
So sad and lost without my wife Title: Re: BPD Post by: maxsterling on May 11, 2015, 12:35:31 PM Hi, and welcome :)
What traits of BPD do you think you have? What traits of BPD do you think your wife has? It's not uncommon for a person with BPD to claim BPD in others. to them, they are normal, and it is everyone else with the problem. I'd suggest browsing the website here (especially the sidebar to the right) and read a bit more about the disorder. Title: Re: BPD Post by: jmay2314 on May 11, 2015, 01:05:18 PM Me An unstable sense of self, identity or self-image-yes
A pattern of unstable and intense relationships that alternate between wholly positive feelings and wholly negative feelings about the other person-yes Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment-yes Emotional instability including periods of depression and anger-yes Chronic feelings of emptiness-yes Impulsivity that is potentially self-damaging-yes Recurring suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injury-no—have a had a few days of this Stress-related paranoia-no Dissociation-yes Wife Stress Mood swings depression/anger always my fault and most could be triggering who actions. I just do not know Title: Re: BPD Post by: waverider on May 11, 2015, 05:48:56 PM If you have questions of self doubt maybe you need your own therapist rather than being subject to your wife's opinions, which may very well be tainted.
Is this separation permanent or temporary? if it is permanent you may need to have a look over at the Leaving Board. If you do have BPD you may very well find this site triggering for you. If you find this happening we can recommend other resources for you. However, as others have stated we can start to believe we have problems that are not really originating in ourselves. Title: Re: BPD Post by: jmay2314 on May 12, 2015, 11:48:23 AM It look permanent as she has filed for divorce then stopped it. Where is leaving board?
I do not want a divorce Title: Re: BPD Post by: waverider on May 12, 2015, 12:31:19 PM It look permanent as she has filed for divorce then stopped it. Where is leaving board? I do not want a divorce [L3] Leaving: Detaching from the Wounds of a failed BPD Relationship (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=8.0) |