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Title: relevant? Post by: rarsweet on May 17, 2015, 11:08:12 AM So what if a friend told you ex was on a hook up site. Not like match.com but an explicitly sex only site. And then you looked it up and ex was on there pictures and all. And their profile was a bunch of b.s. like they make 50k a year ( really unemployed) in a bachelors program( really a drop out) and what they were looking for is a girl 18-25,(hes 36) 4'8"-4'11", slim,who likes blindfolds, spanking, role playing, willing to hook up 1on 1, phone sex, or webcam action.
Title: Re: relevant? Post by: enlighten me on May 17, 2015, 11:14:25 AM Its only relevant if you want it to be.
Are you looking at it for a custody battle or is it just getting to you? If its custody then it would only be relevant if it endangers the children. If its personal then unless your into it look at it as a lucky escape and another reason not to go back. Title: Re: relevant? Post by: ForeverDad on May 17, 2015, 07:16:40 PM Yes, you don't want to dwell on it. Just be glad you got away. Still, you may want to document it with screen captures, etc, just in case you might need it in the years to come.
Be aware that Projection is common with our ex-spouses, maybe it's an aspect of the common Blame Shifting, as in "No, I'm not, you are!" Don't be surprised if he alleges that you are the one doing the things he is doing or contemplating. As EM indicated, this is adult behavior and courts often ignore that as not tremendously impacting custody or parenting issues, the professionals view adult behaviors and parenting behaviors as mostly separate. |