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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Mustbeabetterway on May 17, 2015, 02:26:56 PM



Title: Today is my anniversary
Post by: Mustbeabetterway on May 17, 2015, 02:26:56 PM
Today is my anniversary.  When I came from church my husband (uBPD). Had flowers and a card.  I thanked him.  Not a gushy thanks, things have been rough and rocky lately.  We exchanged some small talk.  Anyway,  I offered him some lunch and he had already eaten.  I sat down to eat and before long he was upset because I had an "attitude".   He remarked that he should just throw the flowers away and never should have bought the card.  Before I knew it, he was yelling f*** you.

I am exhausted by this push/pull.  It happens so fast it makes my head spin.  I cannot say or do the "right" thing and still WOE after so many years.

Just needed to grt this off my chest.  None of my friends would understand this behavior.


Title: Re: Today is my anniversary
Post by: vortex of confusion on May 17, 2015, 03:03:46 PM
   

Wanted to give you some hugs of support! My anniversary is coming up and I am trying not to have any expectations at all.

It is so rough when a day that should be celebrated because, for me, it marks the coming together of two people that love each other and all of that other cheesy stuff. However, for me, our wedding anniversary is often a reminder of, what I feel like, is the day that I was duped.

   


Title: Re: Today is my anniversary
Post by: Mustbeabetterway on May 17, 2015, 03:22:13 PM
Hello, VOC.  Thanks for the hugs.  My SO and I have had many good times, but I just never know when things are going to blow up.  I have been practicing some tools that have helped me weather the storms.

Trying to get past the FOG at the moment. I appreciate the support.


Title: Re: Today is my anniversary
Post by: Cole on May 17, 2015, 04:36:58 PM
Mustbeabetterway,

Vent away. We all understand and that is why we are here.