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Title: Another topic about PAS Post by: Eco on May 19, 2015, 11:39:14 PM Am I wrong to think that as long as my daughter isn't rejecting me and when I have her on my weekends we can play and laugh together, she wants to be comforted by me, and looks for reassurance when something scares her that she isn't being turned against me yet by my ex?
Is the alienation a slow process with little to no signs or is it abrupt and overnight? do both of those come into play? Is there a back and forth or tug of war dynamic? Title: Re: Another topic about PAS Post by: Turkish on May 20, 2015, 12:11:19 AM Eco, this all sounds normal. Being in the situation we all are in to varying degrees, PA is a concern. It sounds like your D really loves you, and it's obvious that you do her. You worry about her growing up being raised by a pwBPD, and it's a worry. We have the tools, info, and support here.
It sounds like for now that things are ok. Even without a PD in the mix, divorces are tough, especially on children. Being as young as she is, it's hard for your DD to process. Keep doing what you're doing, because it sounds like it's the right thing. Don't underestimate the Father-daughter bond. Fathers are the first man that daughters love. Even divorce and seperation in themselves don't change that. I don't necessarily like the phrase, "the future will take care of itself," but in the future, you will be there to take care of things. Enjoy the present for now. |