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Title: Emotional first aid checklist for when she pushes me to the edge Post by: Jacq189 on May 21, 2015, 01:07:16 AM Lets face it, they have 'pushing our buttons' down to a fine art. In response, I aim to have 'keeping my cool' down to a fine art. So whenever I feel myself getting even the slightest bit upset I will go over my 'Emotional first aid checklist'. This is a quick reminder of all the most important points (for me) that I have learnt here and from other resources that help to calm me and hopefully remove some of the trauma of the situation. I have this list on my phone so can easily excuse myself to go to the toilet and will read it there. By the time I have read through the whole list I usually feel calm and strong enough to face her again. I thought it might be useful to share this with others and maybe you can share if you have something similar.
Here is my 'Emotional first aid checklist': -Don't JADE. -Accept the reality that what is, is. -Accept that your partner has a mental illness. -Know you have the patience to tolerate the moment. Or the fortnight! -Do only what is necessary in this moment. -Focus on effectiveness. -Don't try to control the situation. -Be willing not wilful. -You can't fix this. Step back and ride it out. -Stop trying to figure out who is right/wrong or what is fair/unfair. -You are OK and you can do this! Title: Re: Emotional first aid checklist for when she pushes me to the edge Post by: Hmcbart on May 21, 2015, 08:52:19 AM Yep, this is now going on my phone... .thanks Jacq.
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