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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Lovingme35 on May 29, 2015, 06:05:37 PM



Title: Please let this vacation go well
Post by: Lovingme35 on May 29, 2015, 06:05:37 PM
We are leaving tomorrow morning for our cruise. This whole week has been constant drama. My SO who has BPD has been so clingy. We are going on a cruise and he has never been on one before. I talked him into it. On a normal basis we text a couple of times throughout the day and then talk on the phone once before heading to bed because we don't live together. This week it is almost constant. His moods are up and down. Happy and playful like a little kid and then attacking. The other night was really bad. It was about bringing a carry on bag onto the ship. He did not see the need to bring one, even though I was the one that was going to be carrying it! He wanted to know in detail, what happens when and after you board the ship. Up to the point where he wanted to know the exact time we would get our luggage back. It was exhausting!

Now he mad because I am already ready. We were going to meet at his place in a couple of hours and I messed it up by getting everything cleaned and packed ahead of schedule. I never and said that I wanted to meet him at an earlier time. He asked what my timing looked like and I said I am ready when you are. Boom wrong answer! Now he is playing games and deliberately stalling because he knows I am ready. I am to the point now where I would actually rather stay at my place tonight and meet him tomorrow. It's like he is looking for something to start a fight with and anything I do is wrong, but that would start a fight as well. I really hope the whole trip is not going to go like this


Title: Re: Please let this vacation go well
Post by: LilMe on May 30, 2015, 07:01:50 AM
I will be thinking positive thoughts for you on your cruise!  I would definitely brush up on the Lessons any chance you get ------------------->  It is hard, but try to be happy and enjoy yourself, regardless of his mood.  It takes a little practice, but can be done    Let us know how it goes!