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Title: Codependent Enabler Post by: dave2 on June 07, 2015, 09:31:14 AM I read the article https://bpdfamily.com/content/codependency-codependent-relationships a few days ago as I sat in a hotel room where I had fled to be away from my wife. It was a revelation, to see myself and my active role in enabling my wife in her BPD. But it was not pleasant to look into that mirror.
I've concluded that I am certainly not helping my wife in her struggle with BPD. Now I know a lot more about myself and that I cannot be the right person for my current wife and that her best hope for a happier life will be achieved without my contributions. I also know that I have lots to work on to be more of a whole person and more independent. I cannot go around looking for women to "fix". I need to focus on fixing myself and learning to enjoy the person that lives within my skin. Sometimes love means knowing when to let go. Title: Re: Codependent Enabler Post by: married21years on June 08, 2015, 02:36:33 AM before you make a decision get help and read a lot!
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