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Title: When she realized that she had BPD, she stopped therapy Post by: josephbinu on June 09, 2015, 12:06:30 AM Dear team.
Wife wife having BPD and we had gone for therapy for a month. But when she realized that she is having BPD she stops the therapy. We have 2 years old baby girl. At present my wife needs divorce. But I am not ready to give the same. I need to back her to life. At present she lives with her mother and baby. She not allow to see my baby and her. Her mother suffering BPD also. At present they are not allowing anyone to interfere their life including her brother. So what should I do? I need her back... .We are separating last 3 months. Regards Title: Re: need advise Post by: Invictus01 on June 09, 2015, 12:15:07 AM You might want to post it on the staying or undecided boards. But if you know she got BPD and she stopped therapy once she realized she has BPD... .why would you stay? She NEEDS therapy (and a whole lot of it, years) to be a real partner in your relationship. Without it, there is no hope.
Title: Re: need advise Post by: Turkish on June 09, 2015, 10:42:44 PM Hello,
Though you're seperated, it's clear you desire to keep your family intact. My short response is to read the lessons to the right of the board to understand what BPD is, and how to better deal with her. I'm sorry that she's taken your baby after abandoning therapy. Shame is a powerful, unhealthy emotion at the core of a person with BPD (pwBPD). We often trigger that shame unknowingly. What are the legal issues where you are? Where I am in the USA, both parents have equal legal custody rights to our children, though that does not stop parents from doing what she has done. However, you do have rights as a father. Have you sought legal counsel? I hope to hear more how we can help. Turkish Title: Re: need advise Post by: married21years on June 10, 2015, 01:32:08 AM stay calm read a lot. once communication opens up and it will you can sort things maybe. just remember to stay calm... .
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