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Well thankful, I got my cat back. Not with our a fight sadly though.


As I said for the past two weeks my ex has played games with trying to return my cat and things. Last night he finally did. The night was normal enough, he came over said he felt sick so I made him some dinner, gave him some advil, rubbed his neck ( i'm too nice, I know ) we ended up having sex. Than he fell asleep.


The next morning, he woke up wanting sex again. I was physically in pain form the sex and said I didn't want too. He got out of bed flipped out on me started yelling, slammed my door shut hard, ran outside my apartment ( i live in complex)

Start yelling fool names at me in the public hallway b**** c*** extc than I asked if he wanted the 40 dollars I owed him for his travel but that it was on my card and I would need to run to the bank and get it in cash.

Than he went off on me for being a stupid b**** for not having his money ready. I said I was sorry he had told me he wanted to go to the target so I figured I'd give it to him than.


So I got in his car and he drove me to the bank screaming and calling me names the whole time. I started wondering if I should just not give him the money, because he was acting insane. When I said this he grabbed my bag and tried to take it from me. It was a push and pull for the bag till I finally got a good hold of it and ran out of the car and called my father asking him what I should do? My father said to just stay away from him.

I looked back at the car and he was gone. As I started walking home I was saw him in the parking lot of target buying the cat food, I guess I caved and said fine ill just give you the money and u can go. So went got the money and than came home and he left.


I called him later and apologized for how the day went and how I really wish it didn't end that way. He said sorry once for "freaking out "

So I guess we ended okay as you could with a BPD.


I guess what I feel is mostly sadness for someone being that insane. I mean he acts like such a child and seems very hate filled.


I don't know. I feel like their isn't enough room in the world for their pain. And I can't really explain it to people cause it's like they almost don't believe you. Or really get that someone can act that bad.


So now the cat is with me. He said he felt lonely with out the cat. And I feel bad but I just didn't want her with someone like that.


Sorry for the long post. I just really needed to vent that.


I SAY SORRY TOO MUCH

Hi BlackAbdBlue22,

It's good news that you got your cat back. I think your dad has good advice.

Do you think he was holding unto the cat as a means for contact? It sounds like he felt rejection with his acting out.

I believe now is the time for you to move on and go full NC. I'm glad you got your cat back.