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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: HurtTwice on June 11, 2015, 10:23:27 PM



Title: Re: Why is this so hard?
Post by: HurtTwice on June 11, 2015, 10:23:27 PM
Oh, one more thing, is it bad that I miss her stalking me? (a little sarcasm with some truth)

This resonates with me so much.  We can sit here and list reasons all day why it's unhealthy to be with them, but there is an emotional piece that still yearns for them in some way. 

ReclaimingMyLife: I ask myself "Why did I stay" and then after what I thought was a healthy split, "Why did I go back?"  Everything I thought "Something is different now."  But that's not the case.  They have a disorder.  Without INTENSE treatment they will not get better.  We may fool ourselves into thinking that we can help them, save them, have a healthy relationship, but that is simply chasing something that doesn't exist.