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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD => Topic started by: understandnow on June 20, 2015, 05:36:34 PM



Title: New to therapy
Post by: understandnow on June 20, 2015, 05:36:34 PM
I had my first visit with a therapist today.  Without mention the BPD word she said it sounds as though my Dil has the traits of a BPD person. I am working on not letting this ruin the good things in my life.  I am not going to change anything just myself.  She praised me for setting limits and sticking to them.  I feel like I am moving forward and not trying to fix my family.  I won't have harmony that I want,  as long as my son stays with her.  I can accept that.  Can't tell you the peace I feel.  I have much to work on but I am going forward.  I will stay with this wonderful message board.  Thankyou for all you help and reading materials. 


Title: Re: New to therapy
Post by: Panda39 on June 20, 2015, 07:46:35 PM
I had my first visit with a therapist today.  Without mention the BPD word she said it sounds as though my Dil has the traits of a BPD person. I am working on not letting this ruin the good things in my life.  I am not going to change anything just myself.  She praised me for setting limits and sticking to them.  I feel like I am moving forward and not trying to fix my family.  I won't have harmony that I want,  as long as my son stays with her.  I can accept that.  Can't tell you the peace I feel.  I have much to work on but I am going forward.  I will stay with this wonderful message board.  Thankyou for all you help and reading materials. 

I'm glad to hear your first therapy visit was a positive one. It sounds as though you have an astute Therapist  |iiii  Best wishes to you as you start your journey. 

Panda39


Title: Re: New to therapy
Post by: HappyChappy on June 30, 2015, 11:20:42 AM
understandnow Great news. Progress in the right direction. I'm glad you've found peace, I still need ear plugs. lol


Title: Re: New to therapy
Post by: Kwamina on June 30, 2015, 04:04:45 PM
Hi understandnow ,

I'd like to join Panda39 and HappyChappy in congratulating you on your progress! |iiii Great to hear that you've come to a place of acceptance of the things you cannot change which has allowed you to start focusing on the things you can change :)

She praised me for setting limits and sticking to them.

Setting and enforcing boundaries is indeed very important when dealing with a person with BPD as boundaries help protect your own well-being, regardless of whether the other person changes or not |iiii