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Title: should i stay or should i go Post by: married21years on June 23, 2015, 01:30:29 AM Hi all have a flight booked to canada tomorrow.
it is my daughters high school graduation. and i really dont want to get on that plane i cant deal with this feces right now i am not strong enough i have a life of sacrifice for others. and i just want to book a holiday to Crete instead on warm sunny beaches with the wind in my hair sand in my toes. and a bit of sailing Title: Re: should i stay or should i go Post by: mindwise on June 23, 2015, 04:32:50 AM Hi Married21years,
I understand how hard it must be for you. Specially now that you don't feel "strong enough". It's a very personal decision. Your daughters high school graduation is an important event in her life too and I'm sure she'd be happy to see you there. If you cancel the flight make sure you speak with her and explain your moment of weakness. Perhaps you can find inner strength, fly to Canada, assist to the graduation and limit the contact with your wife to a minimum. Staying inside your bubble, not letting negative vibes get to you and focusing on the love you have for your daughter. Just putting my thoughts out there. Best wishes Title: Re: should i stay or should i go Post by: MaroonLiquid on June 23, 2015, 07:58:00 AM I know what you are going through is hard, but in spite of that, make your daughter's day the focal point and as mindwise said, keep contact with your wife to a minimum. Don't let your wife's crap keep you from something you may regret later.
Title: Re: should i stay or should i go Post by: married21years on June 23, 2015, 08:09:10 AM i hear what you are all saying but i need to protect me from the craziness
this is insane and i always sacrifice for others Title: Re: should i stay or should i go Post by: sweetheart on June 23, 2015, 08:13:30 AM Hello married
I just want to echo ML and mw in suggesting that if you can focus on your daughter not your wife's behaviours, would this make the trip more possible for you? And don't forget this forum and it's members are always here 24/7 if you need extra support while you are away. Is there anyone else going with you that could be supportive if you are struggling ? Title: Re: should i stay or should i go Post by: sweetheart on June 23, 2015, 08:20:12 AM I just cross posted, so in reading your reply I can hear that the craziness has become too much for you at the moment, and that by going on the trip you wouldn't be protected from it. That must feel very overwhelming.
Can you talk with daughter about how you are feeling, does she understand what is going on ? |