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So I was at work today and here comes the phone call. Out of the blue. Sent it directly to VM. Listened to voicemail but it cut her off which is funny. I really, really want to call her and let it rip but I know nothing good can come from it.

I have so many questions even though I am the one who cut her off from contact. I want to ask her why all the lying? I know the answer. It's me who's lying and what a jerk I am for calling her a liar.

I am just so pissed that someone could make me look like a fool.

WOW!  Just WOW!  4 weeks.   It can't come to anything good.  We all know that. But I understand your curiosity

I'm three months out.  Haven't heard a peep except for the first day.  Just what make my ex feel so superior that she doesn't call?  She took everything after 4 freakin years and not a peep after breaking up with me.  Damn her and her BPD.

I just want closure but I know closure with a BPD is impossible. I don't know what to do. I want to be the bigger person here because I pretty much pulled a "cut and run". Some part of me says that I owe her an explanation but then I know I'm not dealing with a rational person. What to do, what to do.

What was the tone of her voice in the voice message?

Calm with long pauses. The only part that was recorded was "I don't want to leave you a long message but I would have thought after all our conversations... ." Click.

It sounds like she could be frustrated and there's a hint of emotional blackmail and guilt.

You could talk to her now or you could also wait until you're further along your health path.

Mutt-what do you think the frustration is? That I am not responding? Oh, I'm sure the emotional blackmail and guilt cards are being played.

Absolutely it's frustrating when someone doesn't respond.

Mutt, so even though it's been 3 months, do you think my ex "feels" the fact that I didn't reach out to her?  Kinda like justwhathappened?

In WhatJustHappened?'s situation is that his ex is going through a divorce and most likely her H is cast in the role of persecutor and she's looking for a rescuer.

You may choose to create a new a thread DyingLove and 'll join.

Well, I feel better. Good for me. Called exBPD back and got voicemail. Left her a message for at least my closure. I told her that I know she had been lying to me and that was pretty much it.

Probably not the best idea but I felt like it needed to be done for my sake. I hate letting people think they got one over on me.

Oh, also sent her an email too just in case.

i got the message from my ex after 4 months of strict NC.  She was furious because I didn't say hello to her on the street, but i really didn't notice her.   :) :) :)  such a beautiful woman, but obviously, i'm blind for her now days. 

time is on my (our) side...    

btw, she doesn't believe me, and i really don't care anymore.  :)

I did the same thing... .Its been 6 weeks and I haven't heard a word.  Did you give her an explanation, or just bail?

I actually wish my ex would call but I think she is gone for good... .

Isn't that a good thing? I think subconsciously, you know this to be a good thing. Afterall, you are posting here on the leaving thread!