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Title: Doing A Favor For The Ex Post by: Turkish on June 29, 2015, 07:56:29 PM I suppose I can't get out of this one. She handed me a form this afternoon. I have to write and sign (notarized) an affidavit stating how much child support I give to her each month. Her new husband (my replacement, the affair partner) is moving into her government subsidized apartment. The managers need me to add him to the lease so I have to redo this form, apparently. I suppose it doesn't make me angry like a year ago (though then I was happy, because it meant only days before she could move out), but it still bugs me. She said, "I know you have to go see a notary and you work. I'll pay for the fee." I'll accept that. The old Turkish would have said, "Oh, don't worry about it. It's only $10 or $20." I should charge her my time off work "So when do you need it?" "As soon as possible." Meaning, tomorrow.
I know the dude's only 25, but he just graduated with a BS degree (in a field where jobs are hard to get... . a co-worker's son just got the same degree and he can't find a job in one of the best job markets in the US). I know I'm older, but I only have an AA, yet I also have a technical certificate which helped me leap ahead over the years, because it was a niche skill. I looked ahead and obtained something that enabled me to get a job even in a recession, despite what my mom was saying back then (and who hindered more than helped). For them, I still feel like I'm an enabling parent in a way. Yet the logical part of me says, "as long as she's stable, it's better for the kids, and less headaches for me." T-minus 15 years and counting until I can blow this pop stand. folie Title: Re: Doing A Favor For The Ex Post by: Dutched on June 30, 2015, 05:35:31 PM Turkish
I am not familiar with the US legal system but just hope I understand what you are saying, so correct me if I am wrong. Ex asked you to sign an affidavit stating the amount child support you give. I can understand that one, questioning however is this is her only way. I just think about the court papers that she herself can have notarized (assuming the amount is mentioned). Just think about exw’s bank statements that shows the amount you paid. Can’t exw have those statements notarized by herself? (if accepted) Then you write ‘the manager need me to add him to the lease’ Does that imply that: You and exw are both on the lease agreement? That you in writing must agree that ewx’s guy is added on the lease contract? That you, subsequently will be removed? If so I really think it is important of course. As for the kids, I fully understand your problem! The anger towards you will be projected onto the kids. I Effectively they are punished while mom tries to punish you. And 15 yrs to go is a long time, special to keep the kids emotionally as healthy as possible and meanwhile taking care of your own wellbeing and future. |