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Title: S&M behaviours Post by: Missp on June 30, 2015, 06:10:29 AM My dd24 told me recently about how she is getting into S&M stuff. She seems to be approaching it in a safe manner with some people who sound quite respectable. :) She tells me that ordinary life/sex can seem too dull. Is it common for BPD people to get into this?
Title: Re: S&M behaviours Post by: enlighten me on June 30, 2015, 06:33:26 AM My exgf told me she liked to be spanked. We never did it but ive often wondered if she felt like she needed to be punished.
Title: Re: S&M behaviours Post by: babyducks on June 30, 2015, 10:02:01 AM It's fairly common. Plays into shame and intensity traits.
Title: Re: S&M behaviours Post by: ProfDaddy on August 06, 2015, 09:11:09 PM My DBPD ex wife was into this. Quite common. Probably physically safe, but emotionally part of that charged roller coaster they like to ride. No true intimacy, everyone hides behind their role or personna.
Title: Re: S&M behaviours Post by: enlighten me on August 07, 2015, 05:09:41 AM I wonder if it has anything to do with proving to themselves that everyone hurts them. It could be a way of them validating their belief that everyones out to get them and they receive gratification by their thoughts being made manifest.
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