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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Herodias on July 04, 2015, 10:08:22 PM



Title: How many women have there been?
Post by: Herodias on July 04, 2015, 10:08:22 PM
I just found a message in my file marked "other" that I never looked at! It came in March of this year... .It was from a woman who tried to friend me before, but I did not know who she was so I deleted it. She asked if I was my husbands ex-wife back in March... .I wrote her and said actually no, I am not his ex-wife but we are separated as of April. I asked her to please respond to me because I am finding out about many women he has pursued and all of these other lives he had!  I actually found out about another one today! This particular woman has all the same type of love-bombing posts that I see with the current girlfriend! I am so sickened! I am feeling that if I find out he has had an affair with this one too... .I should really warn his current girlfriend. I would tell her that I know she may choose to not believe me, but I do to want him back and wanted to give her fair warning before she really gets her heart broke if she stays for years like I did! I will wait on a response from this one though... .this is just horrifying!


Title: Re: How many women have there been?
Post by: letmeout on July 04, 2015, 11:51:22 PM
One thing I learned was that were a lot 'other women'. I finally decided that I knew more than I wanted to know and let it go. Which is a hard thing to do when you are hurt and mad, but its better for you in the long run.

I was also tempted to 'warn' other women that he was just a predatory BPD but after reading some other posts on the forums about this subject, I decided to let that go too.

His problems are no longer my concern, I am just grateful and happy to be free of the whole mess of his life. Time heals.