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Hi all,

I want to block my ex on Facebook but am aware that when I see her image I get a horrible feeling of terror/dredd that can put me on my arse for days. Could possibly be PTSD.

Should I just be brave and do it myself? Or should I ask a friend to block her for me so I don't have to see her image.

Any advice would be great.

Thanks.

I blocked my ex and felt immediately relieved.

When you are in the process of blocking, you only see a very tiny profile picture of the person you're blocking.

Perhaps doing it yourself will be the first step to taking your power back.

If you go through settings and to the block option, you just type in their name. No pictures, no wall posts, nothing.

you just add them to the list and you're set!

I will have to see their image though to confirm I have the right person. I tested it the other night, just not with my ex's name.

Believe me, a small picture of my ex is big enough to effect me emotionally and make we wana look at a larger image.

I'm a bit stuck with it all tbh because my ex initially cut me off, for literally years but a few months ago I'd noticed she'd unblocked me on facebook. I left it but I'm aware that I'm always scared she might pop up, when I'm searching for similar names for example.

I'm just not sure what's for the best... .

I blocked her! Did it myself! :)

     

Trust me! This will be the best thing you ever did. Better to block them before they block you.

I went off FB completely and it's been totally freeing.

Have a great weekend!

PW

You did the right thing. Also make sure you delete the entire private chat with her. Make sure you delete it from the chat archive too.

I think now its also the time to block her email and phonenumber because once she find out there is a chance she'll contact you.

I'd be very surprised if she did. She cut me off and I haven't seen or spoken to her (on the phone) since. There was just some (on her terms) texting/emails until she went to the police. That was nearly 3 years ago.

Most of pwBPD will always contact their exes, some do after a couple weeks, some after months and some after years.

I can relate, my ex did this too. Once she dumped me but stayed in contact. We didn't block eachother onFB etc. 3 weeks later she pm's me, we had a chat and later she said she missed me and wanted me back. While she was the one who told me she needed space.

This was the same with our final fight. She dumped me but still wanted to be friends. This time I decided to move on. We had 3 fights before we blocked eachother for good.

I was thinking about the photo you mentioned. My exBPD used to keep everything of her previous relationships. Including photo's of her exBF's. I really wonder why they still keep all these things?

hey soar,

is there a friend or family member you can get to hit the button for you so you dont have to see the picture?

The OP have already managed to block her but for those who might be anxious to see the picture in the process: just clear chache and disable the display of images in the browser's settings.

My ex deleted the images of her and I (from her facebook) when she dumped me. That plus being cut off - it felt literally as if she'd wiped our relationship from history. An awful and traumatising feeling.