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Title: Am I justified in feeling like I was cut off? Post by: disorderedsociety on July 11, 2015, 11:13:35 AM Basically we lived together for 3 years and after a year of contemplating leaving I told her I was leaving. She seemed to expect this judging by her reaction. She was just like, you're leaving? For real? So no contact from her for several weeks after that, when I did she told me she was coming to see me and that she'd been seeing other guys the days after I left. She was coming around my new place to see me, wanting me to get an apartment with her. I finally told her I was done and she found a replacement within days. Somehow I doubt that I was the one making the healthy decision, as if she displayed normal behavior. So despite her diagnosis, her describing her symptoms, I feel like the medication only kept her demons at bay long enough for her to function on a basic level. Somehow I feel like I'm the crazy one and she's right because of how quickly she moved on emotionally.
Title: Re: Am I justified in feeling like I was cut off? Post by: Turkish on July 11, 2015, 09:51:20 PM She told you she was seeing other guys, yet soon after told you she wanted to get an apartment with her? When you asserted a boundary "we're done," she immediately found a partner. This sounds neither healthy nor mature on her side. If you had done the same (imagining her in your place, and she in yours), would it be normal?
Title: Re: Am I justified in feeling like I was cut off? Post by: myself on July 11, 2015, 11:09:47 PM Moving on physically doesn't prove she's moved on emotionally.
If you're done, you're done. Believe in your reasons and keep going. What's been happening, post-r/s, that makes you feel less 'crazy'? Title: Re: Am I justified in feeling like I was cut off? Post by: disorderedsociety on July 12, 2015, 12:57:06 PM Moving on physically doesn't prove she's moved on emotionally. If you're done, you're done. Believe in your reasons and keep going. What's been happening, post-r/s, that makes you feel less 'crazy'? I'd say the way people treat me... .Like I have an opinion and a voice that they're willing to hear. Like there's no big deal about what I'm doing at any given time. I keep reflexively expecting something bad to happen and it doesn't. I don't see people as herds and objects (a view I adopted with her.) I feel like its taken months but I'm becoming a balanced, productive member of society again. The jobs I worked when I was with her I did poorly in because I was doing it to get time away from her. Naturally though my mind only tries to find reasons why she'sbetter off or the rebound guy is better. But she even ccommented that he seemed like a passive person. What girl would try want that? |