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Hi Everyone,

I am going for my Master's in Psychology,  my family  told me  that  my friend  gave  them a  bad vibe .   I always  like  to  give the  benefit  of  the  doubt .


When  I met her 2 weeks ago ,  the first  day she immediately  started calling  me her BBF,  mind, I  am  44 hrs old and she is 47.  That was  very odd, I  know right  the I should have ran far away.

For BPD that is way over the top, that's  just  my opinion ,  I'm open  to  suggestions .

Here comes  her true  colors .   I   invited  her over a couple  times  to lay out art the pool in my condo complex .   The third  time  she came over ,  I  noticed  that  she  had stolen  my tank top.

It was so obvious  she was lying , , she was asking too many  questions ,  she couldn't  tell me bought tank etc

Anyway  the argument  got heated and she kept  texting me like  a  child saying thing like, your stupid ,  what 47 year old woman  uses that are childish .  I   finally  stated DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN.

Of course ,  she continued  then she started threatening ,  saying ,  you better watch out when you're  alone at the pool you may get jumped.  Ignorant  enough  to  put  all of this in writing .

I blocked  her on me cell and watched her reactions  throughout  the  day ,  she was smearing  me on FACEBOOK ,  sending  friend  requests  to MY  friends .

At the  end  of  the  day .   I  sent her a mature text message stating that about  her reacted and I  do no want continue  this  friendship .

Somehow ,  her text came through  like nothing  ever happened  and asked  me  to  go boating .

I made sure she is blocked 

Any suggestions ? ?



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Yes. Run.   

In all seriousness though, I can't even imagine what this must be like.  My former friend is 22 and I'm 29, so it was easy for me to chalk up some of her behavior to immaturity and to making the transition from college student to "real adult."  But to have someone who is 47 years old and acting like that?  I guess I'll have to wait 25 years and check up on my former friend on whatever social media site is around then (we'll probably have computers in our brains by that point) and see if she's still acting that way.

As far as the tank top goes, that is another reason to keep her blocked and forget she ever existed.  Mine borrowed a soccer jersey from me to wear at work and then insisted on taking it home to wash it and fix the hem.  Four months later, she refuses to talk to me and has never given back the jersey.  She also slept over at my house twice, and each time she forgot to bring a t-shirt to sleep in.  She borrowed two of mine and took each one home with her, instead of just throwing them in my washing machine.  I never got those back, either.  I packed her some applesauce in a container, for lunch.  Instead of just giving back the container at the end of the work day, she took it with her.  I haven't seen it since.  She borrowed a book from me, never actually read it, and then never bothered to return it.  Be glad that all you lost was a tank top. 

I don't bother with Facebook anymore.  She didn't smear me on there for the three or so weeks after she went NC and I checked.  But then I tried to tell her boyfriend about her lies, and he never replied to me, so I'm sure she made up some lie about me and how awful I am.  If he told her what I told him, it's possible that she's smearing me right now.  Her position where I work was a short-term one, co-workers were not overly impressed with her, and she has no chance of ever coming back there to work again.  We have no mutual friends, I've never actually met her boyfriend, and her parents live in another state, so I've never met them.  She can post all over Facebook about how awful I am, but the few friends she has on there don't even know what I look like. 

Your true friends will stick by you and reject her friend requests.  And even if they give her the benefit of the doubt, she will end up treating them just like she treated you. 

She sounds unstable regardless of any diagnosis. Be glad she was only in your life for a short time  |iiii