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Title: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: Jmanster on July 20, 2015, 05:29:22 PM
So it's been 6 months since I initiated the no contact. I'm in Vegas now for vacation and she texts me asking me how I am doing. Unbelievable! Ughhh getting anxiety attacks here and I don't want to go down that same path with her again and I won't! Be careful you guys! Be strong and DONT LOOK BACK! There is always an ulterior motive! She might be in a jam and needs some sort of saving, and me being a Virgo is pretty dangerous! But I shall not fall for it anymore! Good thing I'm tipsy, otherwise I would care more lol


Title: Re: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: zundertowz on July 20, 2015, 06:48:44 PM
Is there anyway she knows your in Vegas?  Could be a perfect storm of her being lonely and being jealous your on vacation.  Don't get all drunk... .reply and let her ruin your trip!


Title: Re: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: Jmanster on July 20, 2015, 07:22:56 PM
I have no idea if she knows I'm in Vegas, she probably has her ways of finding out.


Title: Re: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: cloudten on July 20, 2015, 08:17:48 PM
wow... .stay sober enough to stay strong!

i hate titles like this btw... .mine made it 5 days without contacting me.


Title: Re: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: Invictus01 on July 20, 2015, 09:08:48 PM
Go hit on some women, dude. You are in Vegas after all  :)


Title: Re: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: WhatJustHappened? on July 20, 2015, 09:38:45 PM
I'm betting it was just coincidence that you were on vacation when you got the text. Just remember YOU have the power to make this into an issue or not. The delete button is your friend.

I'm also betting a part of you is very curious and perhaps missing her. She's betting on that. No pun intended.


Title: Re: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: mks10 on July 21, 2015, 12:43:48 AM
So it's been 6 months since I initiated the no contact. I'm in Vegas now for vacation and she texts me asking me how I am doing. Unbelievable! Ughhh getting anxiety attacks here and I don't want to go down that same path with her again and I won't! Be careful you guys! Be strong and DONT LOOK BACK! There is always an ulterior motive! She might be in a jam and needs some sort of saving, and me being a Virgo is pretty dangerous! But I shall not fall for it anymore! Good thing I'm tipsy, otherwise I would care more lol

After nearly 5 years of dealing with my ex, I finally realized they never truly go away. I finally had to just walk away from mine... .I just couldn't take the drama any longer.


Title: Re: 6 months of no contact and she messages me
Post by: lawman79 on July 21, 2015, 09:18:09 AM


Wow Jmanster... .So you didn't hear a peep for 6 months? How did things aned and how long did you date?  I am at the 6 month mark with no contact too. 

I second the advice... .dont answer after drinking.  Also if you are considering answering, sleep on it a few days and wait until you get back.   

One other thing I would point out, and I am in no way defending your ex, but normal people do the random text how are you thing to exs all the time... .just to see if they are around and what they are up to.  I have gotten those from girls who I thought were normal.

I guess bottom line... .no drunk response... .think long and hard before your respond... .don't read anything into her tex.