Title: Just a bit of anxiety Post by: gomez_addams on July 21, 2015, 01:58:03 AM Got a text message from the xBPDw today. Didn't read it for roughly six or seven hours. Still, even without reading it, for the next thirty minutes or so I felt like I just downed a pot of coffee. Jittery. On edge.
So that evening I read it. Lots of nonsense about the affair that didn't happen. Felt a little on edge. Today, even before I got the text message I felt as if I had a little bit of trouble concentrating at work. Not completely distracted. I've been like this once before. Had a major life change, and had some trouble adjusting. That period was worse (much worse), even though this situation was more difficult, I think. I'm not sure what causes it, but I can bring it up with the T later this week. Just a bit of anxiety or something. I am almost guessing that "something is different, and the psyche hasn't figured out a routine yet" or something to that effect. Gomez Title: Re: Just a bit of anxiety Post by: Kelly123 on July 21, 2015, 06:12:17 AM I think what you felt was completely normal. 9 times out of 10 a txt from my BPD partner is something negative/dramatic/something that needs doing right this second. I'm in a full time job that involves a lot of concentration so as soon as I get that notification I get anxious instantly. What does he want? What abuse am I guna cop now? The big part of the anxiety for me is that I know if I dont reply straight away it escalates really fast so now I get anxious with any txt or call it's a horrible feeling!
I'm sure it's a different situation for you but that same anxious on edge feeling as you don't know what to expect Title: Re: Just a bit of anxiety Post by: Loosestrife on July 21, 2015, 04:04:15 PM Hi Gomez,
I think this is completely normal too. I'm trying not to add to my anxiety by drinking caffeine etc. I managed to calm myself and fall asleep last night using the 'happify' app on my iPhone. It's a bit basic but any things worth a try. Title: Re: Just a bit of anxiety Post by: ReclaimingMyLife on July 21, 2015, 04:52:50 PM Gomez,
Seems v e r y normal to me. After all her history, how could your body not remember/respond that way? Heck, I got anxious and panic-y driving back into town just THINKING about my ex contacting me. I had a hard time sleeping. Like getting a cortisol injection... .how could we not feel affected? One thing I have been doing a lot is left-nostril breathing to calm down. It can be done in increments of 3, 11 or 31 minutes. I have been doing a lot of 31 minute sessions! Here's the link: www.grdhealth.com/yogameditation/leftnostril.php. It is easy, free, and can be done driving, in bed, talking on the phone etc. No good reason not to do it. I do it when I feel the panic and/or when I have trouble sleeping. Also, magnesium supplements are great for sleeping. Took some last night and slept like a champ. The need for good sleep cannot be overstated at times like these. Keep up the good work and indict yourself just because you feel anxious sometimes. I think you are totally KICKING BUTT in your journey! Title: Re: Just a bit of anxiety Post by: gomez_addams on July 22, 2015, 02:14:00 AM Thanks, everyone.
Today was better, even though there was an email. Stressed a bit, but not as bad. I know the next few months will have plenty of ups and downs. Here's to progress. Gomez |