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Title: Meanest thing your ex said to you? - part 2
Post by: tori3297 on February 17, 2010, 07:56:33 PM
I just had to add one more.  My uBPDexh had plans to go the race track for the day.  After being there for a short time, he started acting childish - drinking to excess, making insensitive comments and checking his cell phone frequently.  He had me so stressed out that my MS symptoms started to flare and that angered him even more.  He shouted "I don't want to be stuck with a sick person my whole life".  My illness is not visible and had caused him minimal inconvenience since I was diagnosed in 2005.  His selfishness and insensitivity is enormous. 


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Title: Re: Meanest thing your ex said to you? - part 2
Post by: O'Maria on February 17, 2010, 08:41:44 PM
There are no apologies from people with emotional illness especially after the honeymoon stage when the affection is gone. If I ever got an apology after being told to "Shut Up" and "FU forever" many times a day, it was a short "sorry but you made me loose my mind, you should be more considering". So it was my fault that I got abused.

Another bad thing he said was when he held a kitchen knife close to his wrist saying "I will show you I can kill myself and its your fault, I wish I had died many years ago".

I don't understand how a disease can do this to a person. I was such a waste of time to try to help him.

I am still mad at myself for tolerating so much bad behavior. 



Title: Re: Meanest thing your ex said to you? - part 2
Post by: 11yrs2long on February 17, 2010, 09:02:02 PM
Yes!

This has been a really great thread for venting... .

I forgot one more.

"Your Father (who is a truly great man) must have really been a piece of ___, if he raised a son like you"

She was the ultimate "'Physcohit_", that's my pet name for her.



Title: Re: Meanest thing your ex said to you? - part 2
Post by: O'Maria on February 17, 2010, 10:00:21 PM
He was the most prominent Psycho personality I have experienced. Nothing was ordinary. I was not prepared for this when I started dating him. I knew he was different but I just couldnt understand why he always reacted so strongly about everything with daily mood swings. I tried to keep my mouth shut but he went on with his temper tantrums, I tried to get away from him but he chased me. Then he once said I had asked him to show his emotions - and he thought it meant acting out. And when I said I don't get anything out of this he said: "You either love me or hate me".

One of the worst thing he ever said was: "You are the best thing that ever happened to me". Why? Because it trapped me.

Well, he is now miles away and the house is quiet. Let this be the last Psycho man in my life.


Title: Re: Meanest thing your ex said to you? - part 2
Post by: rosebud on February 17, 2010, 10:06:37 PM
"Your Father (who is a truly great man) must have really been a piece of ___, if he raised a son like you"

Wow, same thing said to me ... .verbatim.  Exactly.  My deceased father, sweetest man, fireman, marine, my buddy, passed in 1976.  ExBPD never knew him but knew everyone loved him.  My Dad was a "piece of sht" because he "raised me".  A lot of things read here I haven't commented on, but I actually heard them too.

There really seems to be script happening here.

I know this thread is painful, but it's turned a page for me, really therapeutic...   So many phrases, name calling identical, word for word, personal put-downs (very personal), throwing personal things told in confidence back in your face, inventing (projecting) other things, where you go... ."huh?"  Telling other people these bizarre things about you.  In some weird way this is helping me not to take things so personal anymore... even though I knew better.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: ron7127 on February 17, 2010, 10:26:13 PM
Two emasculating remarks stand out.

First, we had a disagreement and I told her that I had asked advice about the situation from a friend. This enraged her and she told me' You have to talk to everyone. You are just like a woman.'

Secpnd, we were simply playing scrabble  and, I thought, having a good time. She spelled out p-nis and acted as if she had to use the word in a sentence to prove it was not a bluff word(yeah, right). She chose "Pe-is, my husband has no pe-is." I was floored and asked her why she said that. No explantion. Next day she told me she had advised her friend of what she had said and was told that i was too sensitive.

I also appreciated the regular cold water dousings while i showered or when I was dressed to go out.

Or, her constantly inquiring if I had doubts that my sons from a previous marriage were really mine, biologically. Funny, she had multiple affairs on me, herself.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: lurchlookalike on February 18, 2010, 01:41:04 AM
Ron, you have some brass ones for sharing that amigo. I appreciate it and could see my spouse saying the same or similar things. She doesn't want me to share anything about our disagreements even though I cannot talk to her about them at all, and many emasculating remarks. Yes, I've received the unscheduled showers too and many swine references to my persona.

The real truth is though, I need more of a woman. More femininity, love, kindness, sensitivity and romance.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: ron7127 on February 18, 2010, 01:59:55 PM
Cantelpoez. that remark about my dick was the end of our sex life( although, after marriage, that had pretty much dried up with constant rebuffing and her insistence that our daughters sleep in ur bed every single night.).I played a lot of sports growing up and am anything but feminine. I am average in the endowmnet dept.

Been in a lot of locker rooms.

But, I lost all my confidence for having intimacy after that one.

It was , really, a cumulative thing. Dousing me in front of my kids. Recruiting my young daughters to throw open the shower and douse me, as well. Silent treatments. Calling me a piece of hit_, No balls, bouncing checks, cheating. It was a nightmare from which I am still reeling.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: jalk on February 18, 2010, 08:20:59 PM
Everything she has ever said to me... .is the worse thing. She's a liar and a fake. Sorry I ever met her.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: lurchlookalike on February 18, 2010, 08:53:28 PM
Ron, you definitely have the cojones amigo. And, you got out of it too.

Muchas Gracias for sharing, everyone.

lurchlookalike


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: gary1958 on February 18, 2010, 09:18:01 PM
No one has ever made me feel the way you do !   


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: PotentiallyKevin on February 18, 2010, 09:25:10 PM
No one has ever made me feel the way you do !   

then she says the same thing to the next guy, then the next, then the next, etc etc etc. You would think that it would get old... .


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Backtome09 on February 18, 2010, 09:46:17 PM
"You're not welcome in this apartment... ." after I had physically moved all his stuff there (by myself) and half my stuff there too... and no longer had another place to live. We broke up after this for a few months. We had been living together at that point for about 6 years.

"How do you think HE felt about it?" He was using what I had told him about cheating in a previous relationship against me. Classic BPD. He was spitting at me he was so mad. The cheating in the previous relationship was teenage "you cheat on me, I will cheat on you" kind of stuff.

"I would have NEVER gotten into a relationship with you if I had known... ." something that I had told him early on. Truthfulness does not help you with them. They always throw it back in your face. These last two comments were right before we broke up & he was making me look like the evil one.

One last thing that I won't repeat on here during sex that plainly shows he was "somewhere else" & not focusing on the moment. Zombie.

Bleh.

Oh yeah, forgot, thanks for reminding me--"I should have done this a long time ago. Do it to ME! I will do it to you." While he was flashing a knife between the two of us. Yeah, and he was a "well-adjusted young man". Later told me he thought of suicide many times before he even met me. Great. Love how it comes out years later.



Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: C12P21 on February 19, 2010, 03:38:05 AM
Excerpt
I also appreciated the regular cold water dousings while i showered or when I was dressed to go out.

Wow, that brought back memories... .my ex husband used to do that during our first year of marriage, I had completely forgotten. I absolutely hated it.

The worst thing he ever said, there were far to many to remember. I used to argue back and said some vile things as well. I stopped and he continued for many years.

The worst... ."I ignored our children because I knew three of them weren't mine".

Right. Sadly, he did ignore them.

C


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: letmego on February 19, 2010, 06:01:25 PM
hmmm so many to choose from

I hope you die, 

Im f**king someone else tonight ill send you the pics.

I detached myself from you months ago. I dont know what I feel about you. I think its just sex. I dont love you really its just words.(then five minutes later he would be declaring undying love and wondering why i didnt beleive him!)

I gave you my best , you just ruined it, tonight never happened. You took away everything I felt for you.  (this was after a lovely evening that he decided to ruin with the usual row less than 24 hours later)

Your a useless, worthless cold person and I hate you

Your a f**king c**t Im going where im wanted tonight.

I cant stand you anymore , You disgust me.

You are sick, you need help... .     (that one made me laugh as he was in full rage at the time and only one of us was sick)

There is something seriously wrong with you, you need to see someone

Keep out of my private life it only causes problems when you interfere!  (this was after questioning suspicious behaviour)

God I hate you so much right now.  You are incompetent and useless and will never have a relationship

You failed yet again to understand and communicate.

They seem to love the word "fail"  they throw it about all the time.  Designed to make us feel really crap. And constantly he would make out I had a problem, would text me non stop, I wouldnt respond then he would say Stop texting me you f**king stalker!  It was like he was constantly trying to break me, then reel me back in just to break me again.  Oh and his phone was always switched off whenever I was around.  hmmm I wonder why... .Also just about every row would involve him saying he was changing his number.  he acually did change it several times.  Great I thought free at last.  Two days later he would get back in touch on his new number.  Only to be mr nice then mr nasty again and then say "I knew i should never have got back with you"  ... .Helloo, you bloody chased me to get back with you.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: whyme87 on February 19, 2010, 07:16:49 PM
Ahh she phoned the police and said i was harrasing her.

I kept calling/texting as i'd not heard from her that day at all and I was worried.She claimed it was harrasment... .the next day I call to try and talk calmy... she says "i kissed ryan last night it's nothing to f'in do with you" hangs up.

Ring back "leave me.i killed your f'in child"

she then changed her number


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: GodofNietzsche on February 19, 2010, 07:20:29 PM
Ahh she phoned the police and said i was harrasing her.

I kept calling/texting as i'd not heard from her that day at all and I was worried.She claimed it was harrasment... .the next day I call to try and talk calmy... she says "i kissed ryan last night it's nothing to f'in do with you" hangs up.

Ring back "leave me.i killed your f'in child"

she then changed her number

I know we see a lot of crazy stuff on this board... .but that is really #ucked up.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: GodofNietzsche on February 19, 2010, 08:21:37 PM
Ahh she phoned the police and said i was harrasing her.

I kept calling/texting as i'd not heard from her that day at all and I was worried.She claimed it was harrasment... .the next day I call to try and talk calmy... she says "i kissed ryan last night it's nothing to f'in do with you" hangs up.

Ring back "leave me.i killed your f'in child"

she then changed her number

I know we see a lot of crazy stuff on this board... .but that is really #ucked up.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Untouched on February 19, 2010, 08:53:08 PM
Too many to count over the many years I put up with it.  These are the ones that hurt the most.

1.  In front of his parents, he blamed me for his dad having cancer.

2.  3 months after my brother had passed, I called him and was upset.  Part of me was still in disbelief he was gone.  I guess he was tired of hearing about my pain and said, ":)uh, what the f do you think would happen, Untouched, if i put a rope around my neck?"

3.   No one will have you with the baggage you have (meaning my 2 older kids from previous marriage)

4.   Calling my 2 older kids b@stards



Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: muddychicken on February 20, 2010, 09:29:49 AM
"I had sex last night with a 24 year old I met at a party... .it was easier than I thought it would be" Oh wait... .wrong thread, I thought this was "What is the best thing your BPD has ever said to you!"


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: TonyC on February 20, 2010, 09:40:46 AM
how much dont you remember... but some flashes up out of nowhere?


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: vanilla_essence on February 20, 2010, 03:31:47 PM
C$$t, hit_, tw@t, f$$k head, psycho, frustrated hetro hit_, fatty, lardy arse, cheat, liar, pig, fridgit... .to name just a few, anything she could think of. The worst was the insult to my then 3 year old daughter "f$$king little c$$t"




Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: VB on February 20, 2010, 04:32:55 PM
C$$t, hit_, tw@t, f$$k head, psycho, frustrated hetro hit_, fatty, lardy arse, cheat, liar, pig, fridgit... .to name just a few, anything she could think of. The worst was the insult to my then 3 year old daughter "f$$king little c$$t"

Oh yeah, the C$$t word comes into it quite a lot. Must be their weapon of choice! 


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: turtlesoup on February 20, 2010, 05:18:00 PM
Yeah why do they blame you for things that are nowhere close to being your fault and even happened before you even met

My exBPD blamed her mothers death on me and if i "couldn't see I had a hand in it then I was blind". The unfortunate woman in question having contracted cancer even before I met my exBPD, she would blame me for crazy things, even things she had clearly made up.

That is something I simply can not understand, its nowhere close to any truth whatsoever, not even in any way, why do they do that?


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: shallowval33 on February 20, 2010, 05:28:29 PM
*I'm glad to finally get the monkey off my back (me apparently).

*SHE understands me.

*You're the Grandmother of a *expletive*(too mortified to repeat)

... .but you know, IIIIIIIII love 'em. WTH?




Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: anker on February 20, 2010, 06:36:28 PM
The only time he called me a ___ I started laughing. I find the word funny

He was furious after that.

"you're too loud. Obnoxious. Clingy. Sexually irtatious with your friends"

Oh yeah... ."you don't have friends you have acquaintances" (projection much?)

"why are you so pushy and manly with your friends"

Basiclly anytime I felt confident and happy there was something wrong with me.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: FinPublic on February 20, 2010, 09:50:07 PM
He repeatedly went after my 2 grown kids. He called my son gay, which for reasons too numerous to go into, made me laugh. Out loud. My stbx hated my laughing at him. I suspect he's probably has a bit of Narcissistic Personality Disorder as well. His diagnosis was Personality Disorder NOS.

Technically, my stbx didn't SAY this, he posted it on Facebook. He wrote that he was sexually attracted to my daughter and my sister. Those really got to me.

He told me he wished my dog was dead. Again it got to me.

He called me a ___rag, which I thought & still think is idiotic, so it didn't get in.

Remembering this has all of a sudden gotten way too depressing.  

Think I'll go see if Apollo Ohno is skating. Get myself cheered up again. :)



Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: harmony1 on February 20, 2010, 09:51:31 PM
Hi


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: FinPublic on February 20, 2010, 11:21:23 PM
I've been thinking more about this. And you know the very worst thing he ever said? That he loved me because I believed him and because I really needed to be loved. 


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: zero0zero0zero0 on February 21, 2010, 12:52:56 AM
Hi


LOL! Isn't THAT the truth!


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: O'Maria on February 21, 2010, 01:40:32 AM
Anker,

I experienced pretty much the same. If I was happy he needed to take me down and feel depressed if that was the "mood of the day". If he was happy then I had to be very careful and agree 100% and boost his happiness.

Humor never helped. I tried.

His mood pretty much determined what happened that day.



Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: man34 on February 21, 2010, 02:01:14 AM
my exBPD gf called my wife and asked her to get an abortion... .what the hell... .


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Goose on February 21, 2010, 03:45:16 AM
"You fckn kid!" (I'm 8 years his junior but still close to my mid-twenties and a mother, I hated that patronizing expression)

"You have ruined my life" (x100)

"You're fcked up, I'm gonna move in with my ex and our kids again, never call me again" (happened once in a while in more or less this manner)

"Yeah, show off your ___ to the whole community as I know you do!" (he was thinking I was having sex with a friend of mine who's computer I was fixing)

But somehow the words "stupid" or "thick" hurt the most. I've through my bad self-confidence at least always known I'm smart, guess he knew that, those words really put me down.

and yeah just gotta edit in I agree on the "I love you" as one of the worst things, I needed to be loved very much too and believed it all.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: turtlesoup on February 21, 2010, 04:05:56 AM
I've been thinking more about this. And you know the very worst thing he ever said? That he loved me because I believed him and because I really needed to be loved. 

This is pretty standard I think. As we were "breaking" up and what probably put the tin lid on it for my ex, was that she was now upset that I believed what all the therapists and mental health professionals had been saying and had somewhere along the line "lost my reason". She loved me because I would tolerate her version of events. If i questioned it, and when I did, and kept questioning it and she could see I also thought she had a problem, I was out the door.

And doubtless she is targeting someone with the same techniques now who will accept her mental state and not try and change her... .until they can no longer take the abuse too. These people are in for lonely lives.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Metta on February 21, 2010, 08:16:00 AM
(after dumping me and returning to his ex-wife's and daughter's home)

"My daughter made me a Valentine's day card and you should be happy for me!"

(or some such nonsense, as if he had no right to get a card from her if he divorced his wife. It really showed me that his feelings were the most important thing. He had to feel approved of. It just really stung-like him being a standup guy and being with me prevented him from being a dad, so he had to go back. Please. jackass. Insisting I be happy that he got a damn card right after he dumped me in the worst way. hit_ had no business sending me mopey emails after he heroically returned to his marriage. Such disrespect to his then-ex-wife and me. Pig.)

The V day card thing really burned.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Metta on February 21, 2010, 08:16:53 AM
Double post, oops.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: anker on February 21, 2010, 08:24:14 AM
Him saying he loved me was not a bad thing. Just because it meant something different to him than me... .in his illness it was the nicest thing he could try for.

the love he had wasn't the bad thing. That he could not be healthy and was unkind and mentally ill was the bad part.

At any rate not my problem anymore. I do think he tried but his illness made it impossibly painful for me... .


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: oceanheart on February 21, 2010, 09:37:50 AM
The only time he called me a ___ I started laughing. I find the word funny. He was furious after that. "you're too loud. Obnoxious. Clingy. Sexually irtatious with your friends" Oh yeah... ."you don't have friends you have acquaintances" (projection much?) "why are you so pushy and manly with your friends" Basiclly anytime I felt confident and happy there was something wrong with me.

Naked power plays, anker. He was trying to strip you of your power. He may/may not even be aware that's what he's doing. If he is, that's evil, and most likely a NPD thing. In my [non-professional] opinion, pwNPD tend to be more predatory-reptilian (mean) and pwBPD tend to be more wounded-bear (lashing-out). Of course, I could be biased... .

Growing up, my brother told me all the time how stupid and crazy I was and this continued into our adulthood (we're LC right now). The most painful thing in childhood I can remember was when we were visiting a mountaintop for vacation and he and I were looking over the edge - our parents were elsewhere - and he said something like: "I could push you off and no one would know it was me." I was 12, he was 14.

And all the emasculating comments men have mentioned - those are to take down a person's power, which may be perceived by the pwBPD as threatening. Perceived is the operating word, because remember pwBPD are sometimes acting out of long-ago installed cognitive scripts that are severely distorted. But sometimes there is a reason (NEVER an EXCUSE!).


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: hiddenlizard on February 21, 2010, 12:38:00 PM
Let's see,

I think the one(s) that really did in the relationship - background: I found him masturbating with internet porn at 4 am, a day later we attempted to discuss the issue, he wanted me to see some of the websites he visited, one had several movies portraying young women, my late husband was quite a bit older than me.

I point out the disturbing nature of the "age" of the women

He says, "I wouldn't click on those. I am not into child porn BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO GO TO JAIL" (my emphasis and WRONG ANSWER DUDE!)

Then he proceeds with, "Men like younger women. Look at you and (my late husband)."

then the category which includes:

you need help

you are crazy and you are going to make me crazy

(a lot of comments about my first marriage)

I am not hurting you, you are hurting yourself

no other man is going to want you... .

the way he lied about a certain incident while in couples counseling (but in fact this is one of the red-flag  that he has not and will not, is not capable of changing, and likely believes his "style" of history after telling himself how true it is even though it is 180 degrees off, he claimed that my actions were his and his were mine - but I am the one who is "crazy"?)


But really the painful ones are the "loving" ones.

you are exactly what I have been looking for

you are more than I could have ever dreamed of

I love you

you are the best thing I have in my life

and so on and so on and... .

Yes, it is very, very painful to recount this stuff but I need to remember. I feel like I have so many layers to break through before I am really free of the ugliness he brought into my life. I try to think of a kinda ugly, maybe even scary looking caterpillar sealed up in a chrysalis  - breaking out with a great deal of struggle and flying away a beautiful colored butterfly. Maybe kinda corny but it helps some of the time.

Thank you for listening.



Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: hiddenlizard on February 21, 2010, 02:03:00 PM
this is not the "worst" thing but interesting nonetheless:

in the pity seeking e-mail he sent last night he said "This relationship has cost me plenty"

no, I have not gone NC, yet

I responded by saying that he may get more sympathy from someone other than me

it is noon and he has not phoned nor e-mailed

maybe I did good


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: healing1 on February 22, 2010, 07:53:19 AM
Let's see:

"No man would ever want you"

"People won't like you when they find out how you REALLY are"    project much?

"you need to see a psychiatrist" Um he went to see one and was put on meds and stopped taking them cold turkey.

"You're so full of ___ that your eyes are brown!"

"You should get a boob job"

"I cheated (for at least nine years maybe more who knows with several different women) because you didn't act like a wife!"

Recently when I filed for divorce "PLEASE READ (https://bpdfamily.com/safe-site.htm) YOU _____, PLEASE READ (https://bpdfamily.com/safe-site.htm) YOU FOR DOING THIS!" with gritted teeth, red faced and in my face.

"Youngest child is having psychosomatic symptoms because you hired a divorce lawyer and are doing this to me"

After leaving town to see concerts for ten days yet unemployed and expecting a hero's welcome: "You need to make me feel welcome and appreciated around here!"  that one is not really hateful just insane.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: O'Maria on February 22, 2010, 11:44:57 AM
Healing1,

This is terrible to read.

Mine was put on drugs too and he stopped taking them every time. Did not want to be a nuthead. The best thing for you to do is to heal yourself, you cannot help somebody who does not respect you.

It takes time but some day you can look at it as an experience. Do things that you enjoy. I focus more on exercise and just talking to people, having dinner, going to the movies. I decided to take care of myself first before I start another r/s and I am also very afraid to fall in love with another man who turns out to be a monster.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Hannahbanana on February 22, 2010, 12:48:39 PM
I'm really surprised by the things everyone has said because i think i heard most, if not all of these comments from my ex at some point.  The comments are almost word for word, it's really strange!  Some of the comments on this thread, variations of which i frequently heard, are:

You ruined my life

I hope you die just to get you out of my life for good

You look amazing from head to toe, but bleed black blood and are probably schizophrenic

You need serious help

If you're hurt, it's not my fault, it's your problem, you're hurting yourself

I need someone who gets me!  God himself would struggle to "get" this guy

Men will fall at your feet because you look amazing, once they know your head, god help them

I am soo attracted to you physically, it's your headspace i don't like (for some reason i now find this funny, maybe i am crazy :)






Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: TonyC on February 22, 2010, 12:49:30 PM
im coming back home


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: atwittsend on February 22, 2010, 04:30:27 PM
haha yeah I just got that one the other day.  i wanna come back home... .

suuuurrrreee


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: shallowval33 on February 22, 2010, 08:48:13 PM
I agree that  the words that hurt the most, are the loving ones you play over and over in your mind. The ones meant to hurt, make me laugh because they're so utterly ridiculous.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Aussie John on February 22, 2010, 10:19:13 PM
I want to come back!


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: healing1 on February 23, 2010, 06:59:06 AM
Thank you mariaorlando. I'm sorry for your situation too.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: JGirl2 on February 23, 2010, 07:20:39 AM
By far the worst he did was saying that I'm a horrible abusive mother... .- he made up the story of me abusing our oldest son and it never happened. he went around telling everyone I abuse our son.  Every argument we had he would yell how horrible a person I was that I abused my children.  That really hurt that he would go around and say thing like this and some neighbors who I was friends now do not  really talk to me any more because of this.  The son he accuses me of abusing doesn't talk to him anymore because of this.  This really hurt my son to hear his dad make up this false story and go around to his friends parents telling them I abused this son.  That is what hurts most is that the jerk made this up to really try to hurt me and he also winds up hurting our son badly.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: .cup.car on July 22, 2015, 10:27:49 AM
Ground zero. Pick one and only one.

Ahahahah and i don't blame you for being a ___, must suck getting rejected by the same girl for 3+ years. Sick twisted ___ Don't talk to me. - received at 2:44 am

For some context, I asked her why she called my mom at 5am to try and find out where I lived and where I worked.

And I love how despite her being the one to call me crying on a yearly basis begging to get back together, I'm the one who was rejected. Ok then.

Glad she violated the court order. Anyways, your turn.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: OopsIDidItAgain on July 22, 2015, 10:35:49 AM
All because I wouldn't take a picture making out with her in front of the water while she was drunk... .

"You're so ___ed up because of your abusive relationship, You got into that relationship because your parents made you a fat kid and you were fat all your life no one wanted you until you lost weight. No one is ever going to love you because you're so fuc*ed up!"

She brought up my ex who hit me once and I left. I hadn't been in that relationship for 7 years.  I also haven't been overweight for 7 years. I'm actually a personal trainer on the side.

She got very nasty when she drank. Why did I stay with her? This was back in April.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: problemsolver on July 22, 2015, 11:56:10 AM
"when are you going to start living life for yourself" recently graduated and I've been trying really hard to make things happen... So it REALLY rubbed me the wrong way ... .She always thought anything I did was based off her.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: lawman79 on July 22, 2015, 12:53:58 PM


Via text right after new years... .

"I hope you burn in an oven like the other jews" I am half jewish btw... .

If you take all the nasty things she said to me, they are nasty then every other nasty comment anyone has ever said to me in 36 years combined... .and we were only together a 14 months.

Just for fun her most over the top threat "You can't prove you own your dog.  I will take her and feed her rat poison and broken glass and give you back her dead body in a garbage bag". 


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Technique on July 22, 2015, 01:03:06 PM
'Half-Jewish?' There's no such thing. You either are or you ain't . If your Mum isn't Jewish then neither are you.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Tomzxz on July 22, 2015, 01:06:29 PM
Lawman79,  I was going to add to the conversation but WOW!  You win with that one. I don't know how you sleep at night without having nightmares.  Just the thought of having someone like that in my life gives me shivers.  I'm truly sorry you had to endure that abuse.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Heldfast on July 22, 2015, 01:17:40 PM
Thank you all, mine said some horrible things, some mean things, but nothing even close to that. I almost feel I should break no contact to commend her... .


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Meadowslark on July 22, 2015, 01:18:52 PM
Not an ex, but my BPDsis told me this:

"If I had all the power in the world to give you what you wanted most, I wouldn't, because you don't deserve happiness. You deserve to suffer forever."

Context was I'd been wanting something for 5+ years and just couldn't seem to get it (long story). Sis would use this as a knife in my side she could twist whenever she wanted to.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: lawman79 on July 22, 2015, 01:28:39 PM


My family celebrates cathoilc and jewish holdays... .we are cashew... .it's complicated but works for us. :)

My ex was a real peach. Constantly calling me a loser and telling me how worthless I was.  Constant threats to harm herself, me and call the police and make up stories. Then finally after a particular nasty exchange, I decided she needed a taste of her own medicine.  So I insulte3d her back with everything I knew she was insecure about.  After taking her abuse for a year, I just lost it and hot back.  That was 6 months ago, and I never heard from her again.  I guess pwBPD can dish it out but they can't take it.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: OopsIDidItAgain on July 22, 2015, 01:31:29 PM
On the occasions when I did lose my temper and give it back to her she always turned it around by saying "you just used everything I told You about in confidence, now I can't trust you... .Not with secrets and not sexually"

She would hold it over my head for weeks! Claiming she couldn't trust me.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: Hannibal Heyes on July 22, 2015, 01:34:18 PM
Stop telling everyone we have a relationship. We never had and we will never ever will!


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: zundertowz on July 22, 2015, 01:39:02 PM
If you don't leave i'm going to call the cops and tell them you beat me... .and that will stay with you the rest of your life.

I'm going to bring home a guy and ___ him right in front of you. LOL

The Jew comment beats all... .but you have too just laugh at how crazy these women are.



Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: problemsolver on July 22, 2015, 01:43:37 PM
Stop telling everyone we have a relationship. We never had and we will never ever will!

dang... .she kinda told me the same thing ... but she was really butt hurt about something I did , so I don't blame her.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: problemsolver on July 22, 2015, 01:44:57 PM
If you don't leave i'm going to call the cops and tell them you beat me... .and that will stay with you the rest of your life.

I'm going to bring home a guy and ___ him right in front of you. LOL

The Jew comment beats all... .but you have too just laugh at how crazy these women are.

Awful ... but at this point you can only chuckle at it... they are so silly



Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: zundertowz on July 22, 2015, 01:59:02 PM
If you don't leave i'm going to call the cops and tell them you beat me... .and that will stay with you the rest of your life.

I'm going to bring home a guy and ___ him right in front of you. LOL

The Jew comment beats all... .but you have too just laugh at how crazy these women are.

Awful ... but at this point you can only chuckle at it... they are so silly

Yeah those two were the ones I thought off the top of my head... .I could probably think of some other good ones... .mine was insane I have no feelings for her so I find it hilarious now.


Title: Meanest thing your ex said - part 2 to you?
Post by: .cup.car on July 22, 2015, 02:22:49 PM
Stop telling everyone we have a relationship. We never had and we will never ever will!

Mine did this too. IDK what they think they're accomplishing... .


Title: Re: Meanest thing your ex said to you? - part 2
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