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Title: Do you ever get repulsed by the idea of sex?
Post by: maxsterling on July 25, 2015, 08:31:38 PM
I'm to the point where the idea of sex does not sound appealing to me.  Not just sex with my wife, but sex in general.  I think the verbal and physical abuse is a huge factor here, in addition to stress of a BPD relationship, depression, and the strong feeling of needing alone time.  Anyone else ever feel this way?


Title: Re: Do you ever get repulsed by the idea of sex?
Post by: formflier on July 26, 2015, 03:34:46 PM
I'm to the point where the idea of sex does not sound appealing to me.  Not just sex with my wife, but sex in general.  I think the verbal and physical abuse is a huge factor here, in addition to stress of a BPD relationship, depression, and the strong feeling of needing alone time.  Anyone else ever feel this way?

It's been a while... .but yeah... .when I had a lot going on with me and the wife... .when I was overwhelmed... .I wasn't much interested.

Hard to remember how long that went on...   couple months maybe.  Things got better... .that feeling went away.

For me... .I think there was so much negativity and bad... .that I wasn't interested in anything fun or good.  Depression maybe?  Who knows...

You would think... .that a person "suffering" from a lot of negativity and bad stuff would want to do something fun... .

FF


Title: Re: Do you ever get repulsed by the idea of sex?
Post by: maric on July 26, 2015, 04:54:45 PM
Yes, I get that.

I'm out for 1 1/2 year from the rs that damaged me the most.

I had sex one time after that, it was a awful situation that I just wanted to be over ASAP. I felt like crying in the middle of it.

Still could not go try a second time. I feel scared and inferior. It's like I still hear the insults in the back of my mind. Awful.

The thing is, I want to go back at dating and meeting people, but sex seems to be so much to handle right now... .I just can't do it. I don't know  how to get out if this. Hopefully time will heal.