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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Fleur2013 on July 25, 2015, 11:06:40 PM



Title: Do I confront him?
Post by: Fleur2013 on July 25, 2015, 11:06:40 PM
He admitted to cheating on me the other day. But I'm sure he will counter that with "well you said it's over so I'm seeing people"  this is the reason not the result of the break up. He can blame the steroids he is taking but I know better. I told him that the most infuriating part is that he is talking her out on MY DIME since he has not worked in 10 yrs. He has been mentioning a trip to Montreal with a male friend was paying  for it.   Saw Frommers book on desk this am but it's gone now (out with her) AND the first number of  redial is Quebec Marriott.

HHe saidthe other day "don't u trust me? "  I laughed.  Pretty obvious that the trip will be on me. I'm tempted to tell him that I will be gone in a new apartment when  he returns

It will totally screw him and may try Suicide. Every

Every time I try to try this happens. Guess I can't be nice.

The money hurts most because I'm driving a20yr old car and he is always saying we can't afford vacation and I am our only income

I know he is using account money on new girl


Title: Re: Do I confront him?
Post by: Turkish on July 26, 2015, 12:07:35 AM
Fleur2013,

What's stopping you from cutting off the money? The possible suicide threats? He's in a r/s with another woman.

T


Title: Re: Do I confront him?
Post by: Fleur2013 on July 26, 2015, 12:19:50 AM
I've kept all of my money since I found out about her but we still have a joint account that he pays  bills from and could syphon money from.


Title: Re: Do I confront him?
Post by: Turkish on July 26, 2015, 01:40:55 AM
Take whatever money is yours and then close the account if you can on your own. Cheating is a huge, painful, betrayal. You owe him nothing. Its time to take care of you. Let him take care f himself.

T.